There is a saying that goes like this:
We will meet many people in our life, but few people will be unforgettable to us, and most of them will eventually disappear in the long river of our memory.
However, in the world of emotions, everyone will have their own Romeo/Juliet, which may take a lifetime to forget.
Who is the woman who makes men never forget? The answer may be one of the following three women.
01 his first love
Most men can’t forget the woman when they first fell in love, because at that time, they had nothing, no worldly things, no ambiguity, no suspicion, and temptation, and they had the purest love.
It’s just a glance, if you like it, you will be vigorous, don’t think about the length of the rest of your life, ignore other people’s gossip, and don’t need to consider whether the family background is prominent or humble.
At that time, the two parties dared to love and hate, innocent and simple, sad and sorrowful, and they would not hide.
The woman at the beginning of love accompanied him through the confusion and experienced many first experiences with him.
I saw the experience shared by netizen Kate before:
A woman and her husband met on a blind date. During the blind date, they felt that the other party was very suitable in all aspects. The husband also wanted to get married.
The two parties proposed after half a year of dating. She felt that her husband would be very good to her, so she married.
Just over two months into her marriage, she discovered that her husband was still in touch with his first love.
Although they didn’t have very intimate words, they chatted from time to time.
She felt very uncomfortable and worried that her husband would be together with his first love again because his old relationship was unforgettable.
Because of this matter, the two had quarreled several times, and the husband felt that he hadn’t done anything out of bounds, and there was nothing to change, and he still kept in touch with his first love.
There is a Zeigarnik effect in psychology: people are always easy to be impressed by what they have tried but have not yet achieved.
In other words, the reason why first love becomes the white moonlight of most men is not that she is really irreplaceable, but because she is his regret.
Because the men did not get together with their first love in the end, they did not experience some life, let alone all kinds of quarrels in trivial matters.
A man can have more reasons to guess that she is perfect and suitable, has infinite possibilities, and can save him from fire and water.
Because of this, men often hard to forget their first love.
02 the woman who once devoted her time and affection to a man but ended up not with him
There are many women who accompany a man from a young age, but choose to leave when the man’s career progresses.
I deeply believe that it is easy to share adversity, and it is difficult to share wealth.
For a man, during the years of struggle, the women around him didn’t think he was poor, didn’t care that he had nothing, and followed him without complaint.
The man originally vowed to marry her when he was rich, but he failed in the end. She had accompanied him through the most difficult days, making him unforgettable in his life.
The relationship between friend David and his ex-girlfriend Alice began in college. After graduating from college, David chose to start a business, and Alice also chose the same city to work.
The two rented a rental house together, and the days of starting a business were difficult. David and Alice had to live on a budget, and often called at home when they pretended that everything was going well.
Even in the most difficult time, David repeatedly hit the wall in starting a business and couldn’t make ends meet.
The two could only rely on Alice’s salary to survive in such a big city, and they could only eat discounted bread for a long time.
Although this kind of life is difficult, they survived later, but at this moment the two had a dispute:
The company Alice works for is going to open a branch in her hometown. If Alice applies for a transfer back, she can get a promotion and a salary increase.
Besides, her parents only have one daughter, and they are too old to move, so they need to go back and take care of them by themselves.
And David’s company has just become famous in the industry, and the company’s business cannot do without David.
Under the pressure of reality, the two decided to break up.
After that, David didn’t fall in love for a long time, and the girl he liked the most was five points similar to Alice.
When people are in the trough, they can experience the true feelings the most, and the people who appear at this time are also doubly cherished.
In life, when you are in the most difficult time, there are still people who are willing to accompany you and silently support you, so that people will remember it more.
Because it is rare, it is precious.
Because of this, it is even more difficult for a man to forget a woman who once devoted her time and affection to him and leave him in the end.
03 the woman who he loves but can’t be together
“Those who cannot get it are always in turmoil, and those who are favored have nothing to fear.”
In middle school, Dick fell in love with Belle at first sight who had transferred from another school, and everything seemed to be developing towards a better side.
However, a change in the family caused Belle to transfer another school, and the story of the two was interrupted.
A few years later, by accident, Dick accidentally learned that Belle was in a certain university. In order to meet again, Dick decided to repeat the study. After a year of hard work, he was admitted to Belle’s university.
In the end, after going around and going around, the two were together after graduating from university, but in the end they still had a grudge because of an accident, and they also separated in regret and helplessness. This fifteen years of youth also came to an end.
Belle accompanied him throughout his youth, so after the loss, Dick was overwhelmed with pain and unforgettable.
I like this sentence very much:
“People don’t remember the person who traveled to see you, they often only remember the person who they traveled to see.”
When dealing with women who are in love but not together, men will feel that parting is a painful growth.
When recalling the common past, you will feel sweet; thinking that you have been separated now, your heart is full of regret and remorse.
Because of this, men are often hard to forget women who want to love but are not together.
Love is the most beautiful feeling of human beings. When two hearts meet together after a long journey, they reflect each other like a mirror without any suspicion. When they beat each other, they say to each other: I will never leave you!
Then, love has come quietly, and no force can separate them.
Love has its own destiny. If you catch it, you should cherish it while secretly rejoicing; if you miss it, you must be able to let go and learn to say goodbye.
Instead of being entangled, it is better to let go and learn to cherish the people in front of you.
This post was previously published on medium.com.
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