
Essay 11 of 18
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Not only is that a time-bomb without a visible fuse, or audible ticking, it’s also passive-aggressive.
I think…there’s duplicity there.
However, even in acknowledging the duplicity, I’m saying that I know what it’s like to have a breakdown of sense-making for oneself.
On the surface, it just looks like plain duplicity, like you’re simply not being honest with yourself and the person to whom you’re talking. Or how we see and what we hear from the person talking to us.
There’s a reality of them being duplicitous, but it also has a knottiness that makes it more complicated than simply being deceitful.
So again, it goes back to your quest for the “Truth” from Tema, which I’m trying to say, you may never know.
You should also acknowledge this possibility in future relationships and be willing to make the hard choice of if you are willing to live with a time bomb not knowing when or if it will go off.
But, after listening to your voice note/cast number 11, it sounds like you’ve decided that you’re not willing to take the chance.
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Essay 12 of 18: Set Fire to the Bridge — With you still on it… and you can’t fly or swim (coming 04.02.2022)
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