Narcissism and codependency expert Ross Rosenberg says, run—but quietly—from the covert narcissist.
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The narcissists thrive—and survive—on our bad self-esteem. So the worst thing you can do when you uncover a covert narcissist is to beat yourself up and to think that you’re stupid …. You are just one of many, many victims of this person.
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I love this talk. Ross Rosenberg puts it so simply and I think it’s very wise advice. It took me 7 years of friendship, resulting in an emotionally, verbally and financially abusive 14 year marriage to finally wake up to the fact that he was a covert narcissist. Butter wouldn’t melt in his mouth in front of relatives, friends and the public eye but my life was a cold, empty, private hell behind closed doors. I did all of Ross’ suggestions with the support of my highly perceptive and supportive parents, and I’ve been free and in recovery for the… Read more »
Thanks so much for your posting. It was one thing to suspect that my husband of 30 years was a narcissistic but hearing someone describe it really was shocking(because that was so him) and ever so helpful to know I’m on the right road to recovery. I was a lucky one and escaped.
My boyfriend’s ex-wife is a covert narcissist. Over the last 16 months, I’ve never experienced so much insanity in my life. Although she left him for a much richer man, she can’t stand that he moved on with me over a year after their divorce. She attempts to use his girls against him using parental alienation techniques. She has forged his name on many documents, opened 4 credit cards, took $5k under false pretenses. Nothing she says is true. She becomes incredibly jealous when she knows we go out of town and sends him pictures of “when they were happy”… Read more »
I had a minimum of 3, and likely 5, of these narcissists in important positions at my last job… Not sure how I survived 2 years. The ensuing burnout is real, even 4 months later. It’s true, these people play down and dirty and it’s all about them behind the scenes, and they manipulate words and scenarios in the blink of an eye. I’m abit gun shy now, but ready to step back into the limelight soon!