There are two types of guys. They are guys who fixate on women and those who become the object of fascination themselves.
If you want to improve yourself on the scale, here are a few things you can start addressing right now.
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Prioritize Personal Care
How’s your personal hygiene?
In a study in the International Journal of Cosmetic Science, participants were given a cologne to spray, and they self-reported higher self-confidence, saying they felt more attractive while wearing the fragrance.
A study from the University of Leeds and the University of Central Lancashire stated that teeth are “the human equivalent of a peacock’s tail,” meaning they’re critical when it comes to mate selection.
So, brush, floss, whiten, shower, use deodorant, and do whatever you need to do to get your smile to look amazing and for your personal hygiene to be on par as well.
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Prioritize Your Appearance
Anybody who says looks don’t matter is lying.
The easiest thing you can do to get on a woman’s radar is to be good-looking, and if you’re not conventionally attractive, the best thing you can do is start working out.
According to research from UCLA, women find men who are “built” sexier than skinny, non-muscular dudes.
There are plenty of women who aren’t into muscly-looking guys. I once had a friend who flat out said she preferred men with dad bods because she didn’t want to have to feel like she had to hit the gym daily to look as good as him.
You don’t need to be a Greek God; you don’t need to be Brad Pitt even, you just need to put in a little bit of effort.
The bottom line is that regular exercise and taking pride in your physical well-being can significantly enhance your overall appeal. It’s all about feeling confident in your own skin.
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Intellect is Attractive
Going back to the point above for a quick second, I can confidently tell you that even if you are extremely attractive and have everything going for you, if you have nothing of value to contribute and everything that comes out of your mouth is nonsensical or dumb, then quality women will probably not pay any attention to you.
You need to have something of value to contribute when it comes to conversation.
Women like smart guys; women like to feel like they can learn and gain something from a conversation they share with a partner.
From personal experience, my partner’s brain is probably in the top 3 things I find unbelievably sexy about him. All of my friends have called him a human Google before. I feel proud of that.
So, focus on engaging in meaningful conversations and bring value to discussions.
Women appreciate intelligence and the opportunity to learn from their partners. Having a partner with a sharp mind is incredibly alluring.
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Have a Sense of Humor
A 2006 study published in Evolution and Human Behavior asked participants how much they value their partner’s ability to make them laugh, and the results ultimately concluded that women love if their partner has a sense of humor.
It can be an extremely intimate experience to share a good laugh with someone.
Growing up, my cousin was my best friend, and she used to make me laugh so hard my belly would hurt, and I wouldn’t be able to breathe.
I remember sitting on her bed with tears in my eyes over some silly conversation we were having, and I asked her, “Do you think we’ll ever find boyfriends who make us laugh as much as we make each other laugh?”
And to that, she said, “if they don’t, they’re not the one.”
I wholeheartedly agree with that. At the end of the day, sharing a genuine laugh can create an intimate bond that lasts.
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Level Up Socially
Women love status.
People look up to individuals who have status. I’m not saying you need to be a millionaire or celebrity, but take a step back and identify where you’re at.
Do you look up to others, or do they look up to you? Are you the one making the decisions, or is someone else making them for you?
Do you follow, or do you lead?
When a man is socially adept, it signals confidence and assertiveness. He’s comfortable in social situations, which can be very appealing to others.
Additionally, leveling up socially is attractive because it demonstrates a combination of confidence, adaptability, communication skills, and emotional intelligence — all of which are key ingredients for building and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships.
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Confidence is Key
Confidence is magnetic.
It’s a foundational trait that influences various aspects of a person’s life. It empowers you to take risks, face challenges, and pursue your goals with determination.
Cultivating confidence is a valuable endeavor that can lead to personal and professional success.
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Style is a Way To Present Yourself
Dressing well shows that you take care of yourself and have an eye for detail. It doesn’t have to be high-end fashion; just choose outfits that suit you and make you feel good.
I’ll be honest: I always find it odd when I see a guy more well-dressed than me, and I love clothing and fashion, so I’m not saying go all out and make your clothing your entire identity (unless you truly are that passionate), but a solid pair of jeans that sit well and a clean white tee-shirt is always a good call.
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Kindness is Sexy
A study conducted at the University of Guelph and Nipissing University asked 800 people about their sexual history, as well as how likely they were to engage in selfless acts, such as charity work and donating blood, in order to understand if there was a correlation between altruism and the amount of sex people have.
The study said the people who were more selfless had significantly more sex and dated more people than those who were selfish, which obviously makes sense since selfish people are annoying and not pleasant to be around.
So yeah, that’s one piece of evidence that shows nice guys do finish first.
The bottom line is that being kind and selfless is an attractive trait, and altruism is linked to having more fulfilling relationships.
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Self-Awareness
You need to have a good personality.
There’s a reason why the “bad boys” in middle school and high school always got all the attention, and that’s typically because they exude confidence and assertiveness.
They aren’t afraid to speak their mind or take risks, which can be appealing to those who are drawn to a strong and self-assured demeanor.
Understand who you are and be comfortable in your own skin. It’s important to have a strong sense of self.
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Pursue Hobbies
You need to engage in activities that you’re passionate about.
Having interests outside of dating makes you more interesting and well-rounded because pursuing hobbies encourages personal growth and development.
It demonstrates a commitment to self-improvement, which is an admirable quality in any individual.
Remember, becoming a 10/10 guy isn’t about perfection but about being the best version of yourself. Embrace your uniqueness and work on these aspects to enhance your overall attractiveness.
To recap:
- Prioritize your personal hygiene
- Exercise
- Cultivate your intellect
- Don’t take everything so seriously. Have a sense of humor
- Level up
- Focus on being confident in yourself
- Dress well
- Being kind is very sexy
- Be self-aware
- Pursue your interests and have hobbies
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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