Using the ‘Death Test’ To Decide if They’re the One

We all get bogged down in the thick of things and can become totally preoccupied with the smaller details of life. This is especially true when it comes to relationships; often we’re impeded by those little things and it impacts our answer to our partner’s inevitable, though often dreaded question: “Where do you see this relationship going?” If you fear your answer may be less than ideal and aren’t ready to rejoin the single’s club so soon, read on for a surefire way to know if they’re the one.

Unless you’re me, death isn’t usually the thing you think of when you talk about marriage, and in fact may be what sways so many from the practice in general. In the modern era, the idea of being with someone until you die can be a heavy concept to grasp, especially during the unpredictable ordeal of getting to know someone. But what if I told you the prospect of death could save your relationship? Enter the “Death Test”; a foolproof way to decide if the person you’re dating is the one you want to spend your life with. Now, before I explain the method I understand that we may have some divergent thinkers when it comes to determining the seriousness of a relationship. On one hand some may argue that they operate on feeling and they’ll know it based on their intuition, while others may take a more analytical approach. This method works for those at both ends at the spectrum! It doesn’t appeal to any one position, all it does is simply put into perspective what you want and hope to get out of the relationship. With that being said, it’s time for the good stuff.

Using the “Death Test”

To use the “Death Test” to decide if your partner is “The One” I recommend following the steps I’ve laid out below.

1. Go to some place quiet, preferably somewhere you feel relaxed without distractions, and if possible away from your partner.
2. Close your eyes and imagine in this moment the world is ending. You can envision this piece however you like as long as the fear feels very real to you.
3. As you imagine this scenario ask yourself the questions: “Who do I want to be with?”, “What must I do right now?”, “If I knew tomorrow wouldn’t happen would I feel as though I’ve fulfilled most of what I’ve wanted to do?”, “Even if I haven’t led a full life, does being with this person make me secure enough to feel like whatever happens I’ll be okay?”

That’s all there is to it! If this trick didn’t work for you don’t sweat it, the “Death Test” only helps you see the long term not determine if you actually like somebody, and in all honesty it doesn’t tell you something you don’t already know from within, it just makes your answer (whatever it may be) easier to confront. I hope you found this article entertaining, if not a little useful. Good luck, and try not to be so afraid of death; eternity isn’t nearly long enough when you’re spending that time with the one you love.

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