What to Do if She Never Texts You First

Are you upset that your lady-crush never texts you first?

Does it make you feel something is wrong?

Do you feel the need to do something to fix the situation before the relationship peters out?

A lot of men over-react in this situation and behave in a way that ensures she’ll be turned off.

In reality, there’s no need to panic at all.

If she never texts you first, it doesn’t mean she’s upset or bored with you. She may well be as excited as ever to meet for a date.

Why Do Some Women Never Text A Man First?

There are plenty of potential reasons why a woman doesn’t text you first, even though she’s still excited about dating you. Let’s explore some of the most common.

She Doesn’t Like To Take The Lead

Some women prefer to let the man take the lead when it comes to dating and relationships.

The ability to lead is primarily a masculine trait. A hyper-feminine woman has no desire to do it. She’s usually attracted to men who take charge.

If you’ve already taken the initiative in texting her first and organising to meet, she knows you’re capable of doing it again.

She might understand that you’re a busy guy and therefore finds it easier to hear when you’re free.

It might be that she’s so nervous about being left on read that she prefers to let you make the first move.

Women are often taught that they’re ‘the prize’ and that good girls don’t chase men. In this era of dating apps and social media, beautiful women will always be overwhelmed with date offers even if they never message a man first.

So, even if she wants you to message her, she might not have even considered making the first move.

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She’s Playing Mind Games

When women really like you, they often hide their interest to avoid coming off as desperate and needy.

These mind games might involve always waiting for you to text first. She might even ignore your messages for a day or so.

As frustrating as this is for everyone involved, it’s an undeniable part of courtship.

She’s Busy

Not all beautiful women are glued to Instagram for most of the day. Some have more important things to worry about.

Maybe she has an important project in her career, or family members to look after.

Women like this aren’t the types to reach out to their romantic interests for a chat, especially if they know you’re capable of messaging her first to organise a date.

Is It A Big Deal If She Never Texts You First?

Here are some more important questions to answer;

Does she reply to your messages when you text her first?
Does she accept your invitations to meet for a date?
Do you have a great time together when you hang out in real life?

If the answer to these questions is YES, you have nothing to worry about, regardless of how often she texts you first.

If the answer to any of them is NO, that’s the big deal you need to fix.

As a man, you should have a life mission that’s more important than messaging women all day. You should want a woman who doesn’t bother you with pointless chit-chat, but still meets up when you invite her.

This is especially true when you’re casually dating multiple women. It can be a real ball-ache when they’re all demanding your attention throughout the day.