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Exciting News: New Podcast Launch
Well, we’re launching a new podcast! It will come out on March 12th. If you enjoy my podcast, you’ll likely appreciate this one too. My brother and wife will probably be featured in every episode, so if you like them, you’re in for a treat!
There will also be some changes, including a new theme song. This is just a taste of what’s to come.
The Love Life Podcast
As many of you know by now, we are revamping The Love Life Podcast. The content you just previewed is a hint at what to expect. The new Love Life Podcast promises to be great—new me, new you!
The theme song you just heard might not be the final version, but we’re excited about the direction we’re taking. It’s going to be a fantastic podcast!
Today’s Podcast: Listener Questions
For today, we have a new episode—though it’s not the new podcast yet. This episode features me and Audrey discussing listener questions from The Love Life Podcast, and let me tell you, we have a story for you today. It’s almost like a true crime episode—well, not exactly a crime, but it does feel a bit criminal!
If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up for the Heartbreak live event happening next week. We’ll cover how to heal from heartbreak, find closure, and navigate those difficult emotions when you wish you had done things differently.
If you’re currently in pain, I encourage you to join us. The event is a one-time only experience on February 25th. You can sign up at loveiftraining.com. I’ll send you an email with all the details—signing up takes just 10 seconds!
Emma’s Story
Now onto the listener question. Emma writes:
“I’ve been with someone for 11 months. Two weeks ago, he went to the shop, and I called him. He texted to say he was waiting for a takeaway. Forty minutes later, he texted me to say he wasn’t coming home and was sorry, but he was done. Since then, I’ve been in complete turmoil. He has made contact, but a lot of it revolves around his feelings. How can I move on with what feels like no closure and no explanation? I have three children he has also walked out on. How do I make sure his abandonment doesn’t affect them? He is not their dad but has five of his own children with whom he has little to no contact.”
Thank you so much for your amazing podcast, Emma.
Recognizing Red Flags
Wow, Emma! There’s a lot going on there. One massive red flag that often goes unspoken is that he has children with whom he has no contact.
I know someone—a friend of a friend—who has two children from different mothers and has no contact with either. That’s a huge concern. Why can’t he take care of his own children?
To your point, Emma, he has five kids and doesn’t have a relationship with any of them. That is unsettling.
Understanding Closure
It astounds me that he walked out without warning after saying he was going to the shops. You’re seeking closure, but you’ve already received it. He revealed his true self—the callous, cruel, and unempathetic person beneath the facade he portrayed for 11 months.
Being involved with someone who can leave so abruptly says more about him than you. He has shown himself to be entirely self-centered.
When he does make contact, it seems all about him and his feelings. This behavior tells you everything you need to know.
Compassion and Self-Reflection
It’s crucial to evaluate whether there were any warning signs you may have overlooked during your relationship. Without assigning blame, reflect on whether you ignored any red flags and how you might act differently in the future.
It’s common for people to judge others from the outside, asking how someone could end up in such a situation. What they don’t realize is that our intuition often sends signals that we ignore. Even when we see those red flags, we may still struggle to anticipate shocking behavior.
The reality is that even if you’ve noticed concerning signs, the depth of the disconnect can still be shocking.
Moving Forward
The key takeaway is to pay attention to those warning signs moving forward. You should recognize that the closure you seek is already there. His actions have revealed who he truly is, and if he reaches out expressing sympathy, it’s still about him.
Ultimately, if someone can treat you with such disregard, consider if you’d want them back. Closure and explanation often only matter when it comes to someone of value, and from my perspective, this man isn’t worth the heartache.
Conclusion
If a person has children and doesn’t maintain a relationship with them, unless there is a legitimate reason, that is a massive red flag. Keep this lesson close as you reflect on your future relationships.
What did you think of the episode? Leave us a comment to let us know! Thanks for listening to The Love Life Podcast. Don’t forget to sign up for the Heartbreak event on February 25th by visiting loveiftraining.com.
As a fun note, I’ll play you the backup theme song that didn’t quite make the cut during the podcast relaunch.
Get ready—exciting changes are coming to The Love Life Podcast with new episodes featuring my wife and brother. Stay tuned for more!
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