What to Do When You Fear Your Relationship Is Over

You feel it. Something’s changed between you and her.

She’s distant. Cold.

You have a nagging sense that your relationship is not sustainable.

You wonder “How long can we keep doing this?”

You replay moments. You look for signs.

You’re afraid it’s over.

But here’s the truth — your biggest problem isn’t her silence, aggravation, or other behaviors.

It’s something else. Something you may spin in and not know how to work with.

Something you don’t know how to put your best foot forward into.

Your biggest problem isn’t her.

It’s you. It’s your fear.

Do you fear that your relationship may be over?

That tightness in your chest… that desperate need to fix things or run away… that’s your body saying something. I don’t feel safe.

And to try to get safe, you try to scramble, try to save the relationship.

A relationship that some days you’re not even sure is worth saving.

And in that, there is another agenda. One that is unconscious.

What you’re really trying to do is escape the fear that you’ll be alone and you’ve lost love.

Do you fear being alone or losing your partner?

If so, here’s the shift that changes everything:
The moment you stop running from your fear — and start meeting it — you stop being ruled by it.

When you can connect with your fear, notice what’s really going on, and not react from it, you begin to feel safe again.

You stop chasing.

You start standing.

And from there, everything changes. Her response. Your energy. The entire dynamic.

Your fear isn’t the end. It’s the doorway back to yourself.

Move into action to master your fear to create the relationship you want.

Watch this video to discover how to work with your fear of your relationship being over instead of letting it control you.

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Previously Published on Stuart Motola’s blog

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