Pause for a moment. Consider this.
About Stuart Motola
Why You Can’t Make Her Happy
She’s responsible for her own happiness.
She’s responsible for her own happiness.
Be Right or Be Loved?
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict.
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict.
Dividing Against Yourself Sucks
Neutralize the brutal inner critic.
Neutralize the brutal inner critic.
When Your Partner’s Not The Problem, Maybe You Are
It was classic one finger pointing at my partner, three pointing back at me. It happened like this…
It was classic one finger pointing at my partner, three pointing back at me. It happened like this…
One Question Struggling Couples Never Ask Themselves
Unfreedom. Think about it. It’s a powerful word. And it describes the condition many couples find themselves in.
Unfreedom. Think about it. It’s a powerful word. And it describes the condition many couples find themselves in.
When I Feared Being A Bad Man
I was scared of betraying my wife, being a bad man and “not on her team,” but it was becoming impossible to deny that things needed to change.
I was scared of betraying my wife, being a bad man and “not on her team,” but it was becoming impossible to deny that things needed to change.
Boxer or Meditator: Who Are You?
One Swings. One Observes.
One Swings. One Observes.
Ladies, Keep Your Heart Open
But close your legs, if that feels right.
But close your legs, if that feels right to you.
Guys, Sex Won’t Make You Whole
A man who does not work with his sexual energy gets worked by it.
A man who does not work with his sexual energy gets worked by it.
She Needs to Talk, Do You Need to Listen?
What happens inside of you when she says, “I need to talk”?
What happens inside of you when she says, “I need to talk”?
Men, Tears, and Strength
Tears do not rob a man of his masculinity. In fact, they refine his masculinity.
Tears do not rob a man of his masculinity. In fact, they refine his masculinity.
The Stoic or Sensitive Guy: Which One Are You?
Are you the guy who feels nothing or feels everything?
Are you the guy who feels nothing or feels everything?
The Controller and the Caregiver–2 Characters Who Keep You Small
Withholds — it’s not a word often spoken between couples. And yet withholds are everywhere in relationship.
Withholds — it’s not a word often spoken between couples. And yet withholds are everywhere in relationship.
Bigger or Smaller — How You Feel With Her
Are you the guy who feels horrible when your partner says – “you’re just not open”?
Are you the guy who feels horrible when your partner says – “you’re just not open”?
Focus On the Repair, Not the Damage
What if the ideal relationship is not “conflict-free” but “conflict-resilient?” What does that look like?
What if the ideal relationship is not “conflict-free” but “conflict-resilient?” What does that look like?