We as humans do often hate ourselves, and not without reason. We hate ourselves for this society has ingrained in our minds what is desired in a human and what is sneered upon.
We hate ourselves because we have a skewed perception of what it means to be a desirable human being.
Some of us hate ourselves for our appearance. We hate our body proportions and we hate the rolls in our stomachs. We hate the fat in our cheeks and the cellulose in our thighs. We hate how flabby our arms are and how our skin is lined with scars (intentional or not, that matters not). We hate the features on our face that we inherited from our parents and we hate the way we aren’t the ‘colour’ we want.
Some of us hate ourselves for who we are as people. We hate ourselves because we have come to believe that to lose our tempers even once is to make us people who simply cannot control ourselves. We hate ourselves because we hear stories of remarkably kind people and we can only think of how dull we are in comparison. We hate ourselves for the actions that we perform in the heat of the moment; we make ourselves out to be monsters who lash out and do nothing but hurt.
Some of us hate ourselves because others have made us believe we have little to no self worth. We hate ourselves because we’ve only heard horrible things thrown our way. We hate ourselves because the words ‘you’re beautiful’ were replaced with hisses of ‘you’re ugly’ and ‘you’re disgusting’. We hate ourselves because everyone around us is constantly pulling us down, slapping labels onto us in an attempt to classify us like mice in some lab experiment. We hate ourselves because we feel small and inferior in this world so full of big, egoistic people.
We as humans often hate ourselves, and not without reason. But maybe there is reason to start loving ourselves again.
Our society’s thinking is flawed. It chooses to accept only certain candidates of the human race as ‘perfect’ people. Yet, in this earth filled with seven billion people, there is not a chance that these people are models for all of us to follow.
We are humans. We feel emotions and we act on impulse. We are created imperfect because we have to come to accept our imperfections as perfections. Not all of us have the same morals and not everyone will be a ray of sunshine all the time.
And that’s okay. It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to accept yourself for being human.
Because that is what we, as humans, are.
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I hope you enjoyed this piece!
This post was originally published by Terri Kue on Medium. Republished with permission.
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About Terri Kue
A writer from Singapore who is just trying to grapple with life.
