Good morning.
It’s Thursday, and I am just now settling back into rhythm after a few days away.
I didn’t write over the weekend. I chose to be with my girls instead. Two of my three daughters and I packed up and pivoted when our original plans fell apart. We were supposed to be in Tahoe, hiking, soaking in hot springs, visiting grandparents, breathing in mountain air. But the flight was canceled, weather shut it down, and just like that, the plan was gone. So we did what you do when you’re not attached to control. We shifted. We drove south instead of north. Austin. Lake Travis. Fredericksburg wine country. The San Antonio Riverwalk. And I’ll tell you, it was beautiful. Not what we planned, but exactly what we needed. There’s something about letting go of what you thought was supposed to happen that opens you up to what actually wants to.
I came home Monday to a house still under construction, which feels like a metaphor I can’t seem to escape lately. Craig had finished the wainscoting in the main room, and there was this quiet, steady sense of forward movement. Not rushed. Not chaotic. Just progress. And as I sat in that space this morning, coffee in hand, I started thinking about what I want to write on today.
Growth.
Mindset.
And something deeper that I’ve been sitting with more and more.
The everyday demons we entertain.
I don’t say that lightly. And I don’t say it to be dramatic. I say it because I am in the final manuscript phase of Everyday Demons, and when you spend that much time studying, reflecting, and living something, you start to see it everywhere. Not in a fearful way, but in a way that sharpens your awareness.
And my personal awareness around this has been amped since about age three… but that’s another days story.
Here’s what I’ve been realizing all the more, we are in constant relationship with things we do not see. And most of us pretend that isn’t true.
We’ve become so conditioned to filter everything through logic, through the mind, through what can be measured, labeled, diagnosed, or explained away, that we have almost entirely shut the door on the supernatural reality of life. And yet, if you look back through history, through scripture, through ancient texts, through lived experience, the supernatural was never questioned. It was understood as part of existence.
In the time of Jesus, miracles were not rare. Deliverance was not rare. Spiritual oppression was not rare. It was recognized. It was named. It was addressed. And now, in modern times, we look at those same types of manifestations and we reframe them into purely clinical language. We say this is a disorder. This is a condition. This is chemical. This is neurological. And to be clear, I am not dismissing mental health. That is real. That matters. But I am saying we have swung so far to one side that we have eliminated the possibility that there is something more at play.
We medicate. We manage. We cope. And then we wonder why things don’t actually resolve at a deeper level.
Because what if some of what we are experiencing is not just biological, but spiritual. What if some of what we are calling anxiety, fear, intrusive thought, heaviness, addiction, is actually a form of oppression that we have no language for anymore because we have decided that realm does not exist.
And yet, every spiritual tradition speaks of it. The Bible speaks of what is unseen. Kabbalah teaches that 98 percent of reality exists beyond what we perceive. Quantum physics points to the same truth, that what we experience physically is only a fraction of what actually is. We know this, and yet we live as if the visible world is all there is.
It’s an interesting contradiction.
And when you start to look at it through this lens, you begin to see how many entry points we casually open in our everyday lives. Not because we are bad or broken, but because we are unaware.
What we consume matters. Not just food, but substances. Alcohol, drugs, even the ones we have normalized and laugh about. Weed, molly, cocaine, pharmaceuticals. These are not neutral. They alter the body, yes, but they also alter perception, awareness, and energetic boundaries. They open things. They lower defenses. They create access points.
And then there is fear. The constant, low-level hum of fear that has become so normalized we don’t even question it anymore. Fear of each other. Fear of the world. Fear of what might happen. We don’t trust our neighbors. We don’t know the people next door. Children no longer play freely in the streets. There is a quiet absence of community that didn’t exist in the same way even fifty years ago.
I remember being a child, playing in the driveway of a neighbor who wasn’t even related to me. Mixing He-Man toys with Barbies and Tonka trucks in the dirt, laughing, feeling safe. That kind of environment created connection. It created belonging. It created light.
Now, our streets are quiet. Not peaceful quiet, but disconnected quiet. Doors closed. Eyes down. Everyone in their own world.
And we call that normal.
But there is something deeper happening there. When connection fades, when community dissolves, when fear replaces trust, light diminishes. And where light diminishes, something else fills the space.
This is not new. This has always been here. Darkness has always existed alongside light. The difference now is not that it is stronger, but that we are less willing to acknowledge it. We have chosen to explain it away instead of confront it.
And that leaves people feeling lost, heavy, confused, searching for answers in systems that only address part of the picture.
This is not a message of fear. It is a message of awareness.
Because the moment you become aware, you also become empowered.
You begin to ask different questions. You begin to look at your life differently. You begin to notice what you are allowing in, what you are aligning with, what you are participating in without realizing it.
And you also begin to recognize that just as darkness exists, so does light. Just as there are entry points for heaviness, there are pathways to freedom, clarity, healing, and alignment.
That is where we are going to go over the next few days.
This is just the opening of the conversation.
Because once you start to see it, you cannot unsee it.
And when you cannot unsee it, you get to choose what you do with it.
What are your thoughts on this… do you believe there’s more happening beneath the surface than we’re willing to admit?
I’d genuinely love to hear your perspective or questions below.
As always loving and praying for you and our world from here,
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