Christiana Aguilera sings, “When there’s no one else, look inside yourself, like your oldest friend, just trust the voice within.”
Sometimes your inner voice is wrong.
Gamblers lose when their intuition says they’ll win. Perhaps you’ve been convinced you were right only to learn you were wrong?
General Custer trusted his gut instinct that his smaller force could overpower a larger Native American coalition led by Sitting Bull. He ignored advice to wait for reinforcements. Custer and all his men lost their lives because of misplaced inner confidence.
World War II started shortly after British Prime Minister Neville Chamberlain signed the Munich Agreement with Adolf Hitler. He believed he was right. It was one of the great blunders of his time.
Trust the voice within:
#1. Go with feelings when making decisions of preference that don’t impact others. You prefer getting up early, but some are night owls.
#2. Trust your gut to express personal values. I value a simple life in the country. You might value city life.
#3. Rely on intuition when you’re aligned with your gifts and experiences. Planning ahead feels good to you. Who cares if others love spontaneity. Planning is your thing. Go with it.
Tip: Reject knee-jerk intuitions. Give your gut time to reflect. Sleep on big decisions, for example.
Distrust the voice within:
#1. Pause when you feel confident but experienced colleagues have concerns.
#2. Evaluate gut feelings when decisions have powerful consequences.
#3. Be skeptical of intuition when emotions run high. Fear and anger cloud judgment. Reassess once emotions cool down.
#4. Doubt your inner voice when you’re stressed or fatigued. High-stress distorts perceptions. Fatigue invites generalizations like everything sucks.
#5. Distrust intuition when you deeply desire for something to be true. Wishful thinking is dangerous to objectivity.
Tip: Question your inner critic.
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