There is nothing more painful than hearing someone cry to you they feel the regret of the years they wasted in a relationship.
They feel that their best years were wasted with a person that ultimately ended in a failed relationship. What they wanted did not come to fruition The relationship never failed in marriage or the long-term commitment they truly desired. They yearn to get back the years they spent that did not have the desired end result. They feel they wasted years of their life that they’re never getting back.
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If you have experienced this yourself firsthand, you understand this.
I myself have. I spent years in a relationship that ended with my partner telling me he had no desire to raise children again, that time in his life had passed. He could not be with a single mom for his future.
I was devastated. It gutted me.
I did not know if I would ever recover.
But you know what? I did recover.
What does not kill you makes you stronger.
First, you have to change your mindset.
I didn’t know then what I know now.
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You can’t judge yourself for what you did or didn’t do in the past based on what you know now.
It is about the journey.
It is about the lessons you learned.
It is about your growth as a person.
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What have you learned along the way?
What have you learned about yourself?
What have you learned for your future path ahead?
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You are not the same person that you were before this relationship. You won’t make the same mistakes again. In your next relationship you are moving upwards, and you will not repeat what you have learned from your pain and heartbreak again.
You are stronger now and more resilient. You have learned the lessons of what you went through. You learned valuable lessons along the way.
Finding love takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight. It is a process.
You are now a much better version of yourself now. Embrace it.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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Nice piece, Harlyn. I think you had an editing error here, though…
“The relationship never failed in marriage or the long-term commitment they truly desired.” Probably not what you meant to write, looks like a partial edit (by you or by an editor) changed the sense of that sentence.