Marriage used to be something that was expected for every man, usually in their younger years. However, the amount of married men seems to be dropping. Why is this? As expected, there’s no single answer, but instead a combination of many culprits, including the following.
Lack of Economically Stable Men
One reason why men are marrying less is that in order to be married, you want to be economically stable. Back in the day, it was much easier to be more economically stable. We all know about the man who was the breadwinner, providing for his housewife, two kids, and a dog. But those days are long past us.
That isn’t to say that men aren’t lazy, but their jobs may not be paying enough, or the man is financially irresponsible. Most people want to marry someone who is financially stable, and if the man isn’t, this could be one of the reasons why fewer people are marrying.
A few other reasons for this can include debts, such as student loans, or men not being able to find the right job. This can delay marriage by quite a bit. Another reason why a man may hold off marriage for economic reasons is that a ceremony is expensive. Obviously, a person doesn’t need a ceremony, but that’s still important for many, and even cheap ceremonies can cost a lot of money.
Men Want to Be Single Longer
Another reason why men may not be marrying as much is that there is less of a rush. In some communities, there’s a rush to get married right after high school or college, and while this still exists in some communities, it’s waning off. Now, taking your time has become more encouraged. For single men, they don’t have to rush into marriage. They can spend some time being casual, or they can spend time being casual and finding the right person.
There’s Plenty of Entertainment
One reason why some people got married is out of boredom. Life stopped being fun, and marrying and settled down spiced things up a little. It was a needed change.
Now, there’s a lot more entertainment at one’s fingertips and ways to relieve one’s self. If a man is feeling sexually frustrated, they can look at pornography. If a man is bored of his life, he can learn a new skill or hobby.
Scared of Commitment
Another reason why many men are afraid of marriage is that the idea of commitment is a bit of a frightening thought. Our current society is all about reinventing oneself and being able to move on from one thing to the next. Marriage, on the other hand, is a lot more set in stone. You have to live with someone for the rest of your life, and if you don’t want to do that, you have to deal with the messy process known as divorce. There’s no wonder why some men don’t want to do this, especially in their younger years when they are still figuring each other out.
Women Are More Independent
For heterosexual relationships, women used to have no choice. They had to marry someone close, usually someone from high school, and they had no higher education. Now, women are becoming more educated, have way more options, and the playing field is usually in their favor.
Because of this, it can be harder for a man to prove their worth to a woman, or at least it feels that way to some men. Also, women have independence. They can hold jobs, live on their own, and they don’t need to rely on a breadwinner.
Dating is More Complicated
With everyone connected and the playing field being bigger, you would think the dating process has simplified. However, for men who are trying online dating, it’s a lot more complex. Especially with heterosexual relationships, the man has to stand out more when there is so much competition. If he gets a reply, he has to figure out a way to set up a date. It can’t be too soon or too late. It’s a complex game, and it can stop men from marrying.
Because of that, many men just give up and they want to stay single for the foreseeable future, preventing marriage.
For Some, The Concept of Marriage is Outdated
Marriage can have its advantages, such as tax breaks, but for many people, the idea of being married is a little old-fashioned. Some people may believe that they don’t need the government to recognize their partnership. Couples may live together, have kids, and pretty much be married, but they haven’t signed the document saying they’re married.
There’s a Lot Going On
Finally, another reason why some men aren’t getting married is because of the news. There’s always some bad news, such as threats of war, pandemics, or other reasons not to settle down. Because we have access to the news 24/7, we see all that’s going on with the world, and it can make most people feel like settling down isn’t something to do right now.
Is it a Good or Bad Thing?
These are some of the reasons why are men not marrying, and with that all said, it makes us wonder: is this a good or bad thing?
Some people will say it’s good. They may say that marriage is outdated and so is commitment. Men don’t need to be married to have a purpose, and one shouldn’t marry someone who they aren’t satisfied with.
Others may say that the lack of marriage is a bad thing. They may claim that men are lonelier, don’t know how to talk to women and that the lack of commitment isn’t good for society.
Just like marriage, it’s complicated. We suppose that there’s a bit of good and a bit of bad in it, but what do you think? Why do you think there are fewer marriages and is it a good thing for society, or bad?
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It’s very simple. Men don’t want to get married cuz they don’t want to get financially destroyed in a divorce. Change divorce laws: No alimony, no child support for women who bolt. Joint custody of kids guaranteed. There is no financial incentive for men to marry. But plenty for women as they can marry some rich dude, divorce after 3 months and be set for life. No thanks!