Yes — You Definitely Want to Date a Princess

The title stuck

Every boyfriend I’ve had has called me Princess. Most did so in an adoring way; only one did so in a rather factual manner as if I had a rare condition he had to work with but was secretly in awe of.

I never asked to be called Princess. It always just happened.

I was quickly tagged as “Princess No Socks” due to an abject failure to keep my socks on as a baby.

Perhaps the title stuck.

When my first boyfriend lovingly called me Princess, I assumed that was what all girls were called by their adoring boyfriends.

Apparently not.

I admit my boyfriends have always treated me like a Princess and I have been well fed and provided for over the years. I was always grateful and gracious for their generosity and thoughtfulness in caring for me.

I prided myself as being the good kind of a Princess.

I didn’t understand why people had a dour view of girls who were Princesses. I was kind-hearted, gracious and generous. How was that bad?

It took me many years to understood what it meant when people referred to me as a Princess — and why that essence resonated so much with me.

Here’s what it really means to be a Princess.

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Redefining a Princess

When I say that I am a Princess, it doesn’t mean that I am demanding or high maintenance. It doesn’t mean that I am untouchable, distant or need to be catered to 24/7.

There’s something that sets some women apart:

A Princess is adored as something very unique — and very precious.

She knows she is different from the masses; most likely because people who know her well have identified that she holds rare and unique qualities.

She may be beautiful, but the most powerful qualities come from what is discovered by a select few on the inside.

It may be her confidence, her inner knowing, her wisdom, her power to attract what she wants, to connect with others, to be of service or being a powerful partner who is additive to others lives.

Therefore, she is treated special by those who love her. A Princess isn’t just loved, she is cherished as someone very precious.

A woman doesn’t tell the world she is a Princess. The world informs her.

When you are a true Princess, others will regard you as such. You won’t have to convince anyone.

You might be a Princess to only one person — or to the entire world.

It simply means that someone sees your value and treats you accordingly.

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The defining characteristic

Being a Princess isn’t a given. A true Princess has a defining characteristic that sets her apart.

Being a Princess means having standards and knowing what they are.

Therefore, I know who I am, what I desire and whether someone will be additive to my life.

These standards start with myself. I have my standards for how I live, conduct myself and interact with others.

I’m not perfect but I have a clear sense of the woman I want to be. And I stay in clear pursuit of it despite the broken road I take to get there.

I admit that it also means that I am used to a certain lifestyle and I intend to maintain that level of living. And it’s a level that I can (and will) sustain with — or without — someone providing it for me.

It comes down to standards that I choose for myself and my life. I know what I value and I live accordingly.

People place higher value on people who hold higher standards and will demonstrate greater respect and admiration for them.

Just like one might treat a Princess.

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The quintessential Princess

Princess Diana is a great example of a Princess. She was highly respected, adored and cherished. She was kind, gracious, classy, beautiful and beloved.

She know who she was and who she wasn’t, and she held her standards firmly as she navigated her troubled life.

A Princess is a high-quality woman who knows her value and who acts in a manner that is extraordinary to others.

Being a Princess is not about “getting”. That may be the result of being regarded as a high-value, high-quality woman. But like others in a royal court, a Princess is a servant first. She is elevated because of what she gives. King, Queen, Knight — they are all there to serve.

The Princess is no exception.

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The Power of a Princess

You don’t get to be a Princess by demanding to be treated special when you aren’t delivering something powerful and meaningful to those around you.

Here’s why my boyfriends always call me Princess: Because they experience something special from me that they don’t get from other women.

A Princess makes her man feel like a King, even when he is only an aspiring Prince. She knows how to make him feel like the most phenomenal man on earth, she inspires him to be a greater man and to overcome whatever barriers he faces in their path together.

The most powerful force on earth? A woman’s femininity. That alone will drive a man to move mountains, slay dragons, reach untouchable peaks — all in the name of impressing, protecting and providing for a feminine woman.

Every woman I’ve know with a strong Princess energy has been a very feminine woman. Every woman who gets “Princess Treatment” exudes femininity. That’s why these things happen so easily for them.

Femininity is not about being weak. You cannot be a weak woman and draw, attract and allure magical things and experiences into your life. Femininity is about being extremely powerful — enough to bring the strongest men to their knees in their quest to win her heart.

A Princess understands the power of her natural femininity. She wholly embraces it and uses it for good.

Which brings us back to having standards and understanding her value and innate power. A truly impressive woman uses her natural powers for good, to elevate, protect, nurture and help others.

She holds high standards for how she treats herself, others and what she will allow in her world.

And that means that she will apply those standards to how she treats her man and how she honors her relationship with him.

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A Princess isn’t for everyone

Not every woman resonates with being a Princess. Maybe there are women who don’t care about getting Princess treatment. And that’s 100% okay. That’s the beauty of living in a fully diverse world — everyone has different needs and desires.

But there is a big difference between being a Princess and acting like a Princess. Self-righteously acting entitled to being treated like a Princess for simply existing (even if you are super cute) is simply ill-mannered and a reflection of poor character.

Remember. You don’t tell the world you are a Princess.

The world informs you by how they regard you and treat you. And that comes as a consequence of how you conduct yourself and treat others.

Set your standards, embrace your natural femininity, know your value, and do the work to become a high value contribution to the lives of everyone you touch — whether it’s greeting them with warmth and acceptance, or helping to elevate their lives by your wisdom, insight or unconditional love.

Not everyone can — or will do that.

And that’s exactly what makes certain women so precious. ❤

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