Jordan Gray says that you can let go of anger, hurt, resentment, betrayal, and pain that others have caused you… if you choose to.
You can let go anytime, you know.
You can let go of the idea that the one that got away, actually got away. You might have dodged a bullet by not ending up with them.
You can let go of your relationship anytime you want to. If it isn’t serving you, it’s unhealthy, or it makes you miserable, you’re allowed to let go of the idea that you need that person in your life.
You can let go of the old ideas that you have about yourself. Despite what your unhelpful internal dialogue may sometimes tell you, you are worthy of love. You aren’t who you used to be. You are capable of change. You are worthy of forgiveness. Your old mistakes don’t dictate who you are today.
You can let go of your habits that don’t help you grow as a person. Just because the guys at the office talk poorly about their significant others doesn’t mean that you have to. Just because all of your friends watch a certain TV show doesn’t mean that you have to watch it to “keep up”. Just because your friends engage in toxic behaviour doesn’t mean that you have to join them.
You can let go of the negative feelings that you have towards your parents. They’re human. As humans, they’re making it up as they go along… just like everybody else. Whatever they may have done to you in the past, or what you perceived them to have done to you in the past, they were only doing the best they could with who they were at the time.
You can let go of a lot of the pain that still lingers from that person that cheated on you. They did it because they were hurting. Or confused. Or cowardly. Whatever their reasons were, there journey is of no concern of yours. They did what they did because of them… not because of you.
You can let go of the idea that intimate relationships run on autopilot. Things that matter take effort. So put effort in. Your partner deserves you at your best.
You can let go of the idea that your life “should” be a certain way. It is what it is. If you can change it and you want to change it, then change it. If you can’t change it but still want to change it, change your perception of what you want to change.
You can let go of the idea that your significant other should be able to read your mind and give you exactly what you want. You’re an adult. It’s time for you to start asking for what you want. Afraid of asking for help for fear of being rejected? That makes sense. You’re only human. But you’re allowed to let go of that too.
You can let go of the pain, anger, hurt, and resentment that you have towards those who have wronged you in the past. They didn’t know the effect that they would have. And they would apologize if they truly knew how much it still hurt you today.
No matter what you’re holding on to today…
You can let go.
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