You can’t go out the door looking like that!
My mascara was a little stuck together today and my Mom said, “You need to fix that before we get out of the car.”
I replied, Mom, if someone cares that much about my mascara they can just look at it and be upset, I don’t care.
She was very bothered by that.
I can’t be totally on board with the if we stop caring what people think we lose our ability to care mentality.
I believe that we can not allow what others think of how we look to have any influence on us. I really don’t care.
THIS IS THE STORY MANY GIRLS ARE TOLD BY THEIR MOTHERS
I grew up with the mentality that I should care how I look out in public, all the time. It created a huge amount of anxiety in my life.
That led to makeup usage at age 13. That led to always worrying about what I looked like, that turned into me going to bed with my makeup on…. damn that mentality did a number on me years ago, for a few of decades.
This leads to all kinds of insecurity and dysfunction, all kinds of behaviors. It was a common thing when I was young.
Retailers make billions on that mentality! Billions! We fall for the advertisements all the time. The flawless look. The quest to look photoshopped.
Now I cry in public, my mascara runs. I’m ok with it. I’m being real, authentic. It’s messy when it is.
I take it light heartedly when my Mom says things like this because she doesn’t know and I don’t need to say anything to hurt her feelings. It’s my job to do my inner work on that story. I have and it feels amazing!
I have much more time for things I love in life. I love the way I look and it shines. It’s our inner joy that brings out our beauty.
DON’T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU. CARE MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK OF YOU!
You do not have to look great and smell great every time you go out the door. That’s life! You can feel great no matter how you look.
Keep it real! Love yourself!
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