Your Words Are Building Blocks: How to Promote Positive Communication Between Couples

Think of your words as building blocks, and you are building a house based on the current level of communication with your partner, adding a building stone every time you make a supportive intervention, removing a stone every time you criticize the other party, and then, estimate the time required to complete the construction process and evaluate the level of communication in your marriage based on it.

Positive communication between couples is very important, studies have proven that adopting and promoting positive behaviors contributes to the development of children’s brains and raising the levels of happiness among family members as a whole, the adult individual learns and develops his behaviors constantly while going through life experiences, which means that his brain keeps developing like children, a carefree and stable life results from positive experiences and experiences, and marriages fall apart when dialogues and negative attitudes prevail between spouses.

We conclude from the above that both behavior and positive dialogue with your partner are necessary factors for stabilizing the marriage, the article discusses:

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“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King J

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5 ways to promote positive communication between couples:

1. Tell your partner that you love him at every opportunity:

Disclosing feelings of love from time to time consolidates this emotion between the couple even if it is prominent in actions and read by intuition, it may be difficult for some individuals to disclose their love verbally, so when you go beyond your comfort zone and tell your partner that you love him from the bottom of your heart, he will appreciate this gesture, rejoice, and be overwhelmed with feelings of love, reassurance and satisfaction from the relationship despite the flaws it contains.

2. Greeting with enthusiasm:

This method requires greeting the partner enthusiastically when you come home after work at the end of the day, for example. the success of the gesture is more about the tone of speech than the speech itself, and you can attach him to a hug, or a kiss, and then ask your partner about the details of his day as soon as you see him. this behavior enhances the partner’s sense of belonging, and that the other party wants to be in his life, so a person can overcome any problem at work when he returns home and receives attention and support from his loving partner.

3. Listen attentively to the partner’s words, and give advice only at his request:

Often an individual listens attentively during a conversation to formulate his opinion on the topic at hand, highlight his intelligence, and attract the attention of the other party, but when the partner turns to you and tells you his problems or worries, he needs to listen to him with sincere interest, and reassure him that the feelings he experiences after his problems are completely normal, there is no need to think about a thoughtful response; it is enough to look into your partner’s eyes while he is talking, nod your head, and react with your body language by his words.

Do not advise unless the partner explicitly asks for it, and in this case, it is also advisable to ask questions that help your partner to formulate his solution; because a person is often aware of the solution, but he needs some support to disclose it and apply it in practice, there is no equal to sincere listening in strengthening the frameworks of communication between spouses, and from this point of view it is advisable to rely on it at every opportunity.

4. Refrain from interrupting or raising the voice while talking:

The views of the spouses are bound to conflict in some situations, and the way they deal with the situation itself determines whether a settlement will be reached or the disagreement will worsen, assuming that one of the children misbehaved in a particular situation, and the parents did not agree on an appropriate punishment. instead of raising the voice and interrupting the other party, it is advisable to discuss the topic carefully and listen attentively to the points of view, try to settle, and best of all, the discussion should take place away from the children’s sight.

Do not act sharply to prove your point of view and impose it on the partner, your opinion does not necessarily have to be right, mutual respect and cordiality between spouses are indispensable for all family members to live in an atmosphere of harmony and joy, and these positive behaviors are reflected in their dealings with others.

5. Encouragement and praise:

Remember the feelings of happiness and tranquility that flooded you during childhood when your mother praised your school projects regardless of their quality, it would be better if you could apply this behavior in your relationship with your partner provided that you refrain from giving false hopes; rather, you should be realistic in your praise as much as possible, such as praising his efforts at work, telling him that he is a successful employee, or expressing your enjoyment of the meal that he has prepared and thanking him from the bottom of your heart, and other daily gentle practices that leave a good trace in his heart.

As a result, the partner will feel comfortable and satisfied, put more effort into his work, set a good example for his colleagues, and continue to prepare delicious meals for his family at home, and all family members benefit from the atmosphere of positive communication between the spouses.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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