Today is Wednesday and my weekly piece needs to be in by today.
My thoughts of what I want to not just write but there needs to be value to you as the reader. There are so many ideas, but I am not sure where to even start.
This past Sunday night, my wife and I had a HUGE augment. It was so bad that the dreaded “D” word was used, and I do mean divorce.
My struggles of getting full time work has not brought peace in our household. Have you read or watched the “Secret” by Rhonda Byrne? To sum up the book in one word would be “visualization.” Byrne has another book our titled “Magic” and the one word here is “Gratitude.”
My life needed a major shift between no job leads and the household tension. To try and get some good mojo back, I started to reread Magic as well as journal the daily reasons why I am grateful.
Sunday morning, before my son and I went to church, I opened up my journal to write down ten “why’s” I am grateful.
My wife and daughters were coming back from a trip to see their family, and I was looking forward to seeing them. Let me just say to you that Sunday morning was the last entry into my gratitude.
Last night at my son Connors’ baseball game, there was a error on a play. Connors’ coach who has a bit of a temper came out of the dugout yelling at the umpire. While witnessing this right in front of me, you could feel the anger from both team’s parents. Our coach has been thrown out of games before and well as you might have guessed he was told by one of the field officials to leave or she will “call the police.”
I have spent 6 years as a hockey coach and sad to say the baseball event is nothing new to youth sports.
What do I personally want you to take away from reading this (thank you for reading this)? My wife came home on Sunday and Monday morning left for a conference. Later today, I will be picking her up and have no idea what to say or even do.
After leaving the baseball game that ended up becoming a forfeit for the kids, I started to get very mad.
I do not know you, but maybe you have the same belief that when you first get married it would be forever. My belief was that and because of that thought process I took the time I spent with my son for granted. The coaching getting tossed from the game lead to him saying one to many words to the field official who not only did call the police but announced the game is now a forfeit. My anger was about not getting time to be there to watch my son play. The actions of this youth coach cost me extra time to see my son.
Both of my stories do have something in common (finally there is a point to the story).
What they have in common is to just simply be in the moment. Here is what I mean. With my wife, it comes down to me being a better partner. We can not just sit around and wait for life to come to us we need to go to life. To be present in the moment is to listen to others and be fully engaged.
For example, one of my writing clients is a local liquor store where I write their weekly blog. There is a craft brewery pub where I interviewed one of the co-owners. During the hour plus I was there he was not “present.” My thought was that yes as a owner of a business they have many things on their mind. As nice as he was I only wish he was more in the moment.
My anger did shift from the drive from the ball fields to home. Knowing in my heart that my son does appreciate that I am at his events. For me it is not just showing up but again being in the moments.
Later today the hope I have is that my wife will forgive me. Plus, to go back and write down my daily ten reasons why I am grateful. For you, my hope is there was something of value here. If not well there is always next week.
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