Big boys don’t cry, but let me tell you
something about the myth: big boys don’t cry
that’s what we tell a six-year-old
with tears rolling down his face
growing up feeling ashamed to be sad
going deeper into despair when he feels upset
never ever has a bigger yarn been spun
we are disconnecting from our emotions
because we’ve been led to believe that
it’s so wrong
growing up pretending to be something
that we’re not just so we can fit in
can’t even express those emotions in
front of our peers for fear of ridicule
easier for us to hang from a rafter than
to hang our hearts on our sleeves
too terrified to speak about our deep-rooted wounds
for fear of not being good enough
can’t move, express, or articulate what’s going on inside
not able to vocalize, identify, or transmit those deep feelings
of low self-esteem and inadequacy
toxic masculinity at the helm of manhood today
apparently feelings are for gays and women
and the more women you sleep with
the more of a man you are
we are impatiently pushing our young
boys to grow up to men without even
giving them the tools to navigate life
suck it up, deal with it, stop your whinging
brothers, cousins, friends
uncles and fathers, outcasts
stuck in this senseless time warp
hundreds of us are dying every single year
locked in our rooms, isolated from the world
afraid of being judged
generation after generation getting slaughtered
by our own hands because big boys don’t cry
well, I’d like to tell you something about that myth
yes we do
Originally published on https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sbws6ZqVpnE&t=3s
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