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When I awoke today, it was as if a veil had been lifted from my eyes, thus revealing the truth as to why practically everything in my life always felt on the verge of effortlessly manifesting into the desired reality of my choosing. But when it came time for the actual rubber to meet the road, the whole kit and caboodle seemed to fall short of coming together to work properly in one steady, fluid, synchronized motion.
In truth, everything in my life WAS just short of working, but not because of external forces; ie: some person, place or thing. Nope, this time there was no scapegoat to point a finger at in blame.
This same finger I once so carelessly used as a way to shirk personal responsibility and assign blame to others, had now been redirected back in my direction, precisely pinpointing the culprit as being my own faulty belief system vehemently held in place by a self-destructive aspect of my ego.
Previously, there was a point on my spiritual journey when I tried to persuade and indoctrinate myself into the ideology that ego is something needing to be removed, made separate, overcome and conquered. But interestingly, as a result of personal experience, I’d come to a very different conclusion in my way of thinking on this subject.
I believe now that the ego is an aspect within us that’s meant to be friended, acknowledged, and transformed into a powerful ally.
That’s why developing a sufficient level of self-awareness is indispensably fundamental in acquiring the keys to unlock the doorway for stepping into the kingdom of your true potential.
It’s one thing to recklessly tromp through life’s obstacles, oblivious and with blinders on. Unfortunately, a good chunk of the populous does and thus why the ego has gained such a bad rep … but through intending to become self-aware, gradually you’ll procure an innate ability to identify when the destructive aspect of ego rears its head in an attempt to steal the show by means of comparison, separatism, and intense competition with others.
Sadly, what’s oftentimes overlooked is how ego also represents your unique individuality and when enacted as an ally, can be used as a powerful catalyst for channeling personal expression, rather than playing the devious culprit who constantly finagles its way into standing between you and everything you aspire to be and wish to create.
Personally, I’m exhausted fighting with life. When you declare war on life, you always lose, because life ALWAYS wins. You cannot battle fate. Life’s going to flow the way it wishes and by paddling upstream and resisting its currents you don’t evade anything. You only prolong and inevitably delay your unpleasant escapades as life will impart upon you more of these same experiences, only exhibiting slightly different masks until you lay down your arms in full surrender and roll with it.
If it feels like everything is just short of working, it is. It’s up to you to trust that life can and WILL work itself out, because it ALWAYS DOES.
Feeling stuck isn’t mandatory, it’s a choice. Same goes for making the decision to learn from what doesn’t work by letting go and then MOVING BEYOND your pitfalls.
So if you’re feeling like you’re repeatedly falling back into the to same lessons over and over again, carefully reexamine your life and take inventory of where your best efforts are not being made.
I feel this famous saying says it best:
“The lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.”
Because just like you won’t unearth buried treasure while digging around the same old piles of dogshit, you won’t achieve different, positive results by attempting the same shit over and over again that in the past only ever resulted in suffering. Results DON’T LIE, and the expectation of one day things magically going differently by repetitively doing what never worked before and never will? Well, that my friends is what’s called INSANITY.
Today choose to change your beliefs. Detach and allow life to run its course, but don’t get it twisted. Detachment isn’t synonymous with the absence of taking action. It’s taking action but detaching yourself from any expectations you might have for its outcome.
Life always supports and holds us, but it won’t feel that way unless you consciously surrender and trust that it is. You don’t need to rearrange your entire life. Just begin by changing one thing, no matter how insignificant or small it seems.
Start by shifting your focus away from what is not working now and forget about letting those go. Instead focus only on what you want more of and what you’d like to let in. By primarily focusing on what it is you want, what needs to be let go of will just fall away on their own, but you have to start believing you are capable in your abilities to attempt something new and different.
The reality is it’s never too late to change your life for the better and it’s never too late to remember who you are, your capabilities, and passions.
Life doesn’t have to consist of constant struggle and suffering, but this means turning in your resignation as “DIRECTOR OF THE UNIVERSE.”
Make a pact with yourself everyday and say:
“Today I believe all is well and life is working for my benefit in perfect divine order.”
Keep meeting life halfway and trust the universal current is pulling you in a direction free of inaccuracies, into smooth, calm seas. And away from irksome, troublesome surprises, full of loose ends, blundering oversights, and miscalculated errors caused by rash feelings with the need to barge ahead too quickly.
So whenever you feel that subconscious pull and you’re about to take a dip off the deep end, silently say to yourself:
“I let go.
I let go.
I LET GO.
I trust.
I trust.
I TRUST.
I BELIEVE.”
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