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If we don’t enjoy connecting with ourselves, connection “outside of us” may become much more appealing by comparison.
This may lead to beautiful and expansive “external” explorations of desire.
And it may also lead to desperation and addiction.
Void filling.
Many of our desires may be an attempt to compensate for a sense of disconnection within.
But what does connection with ourselves even mean?
What would the opposite of void filling be?
We may try to “fill ourselves up” with self-love, self-care.
But even this is an act of filling.
And what else can be filled but a void?
Or the illusion of a void?.
What happens when we don’t attempt to fill anything with anything?
What becomes of the void when it may simply be the void?
In the absence of resistance, in the absence of the violence of attempting to change what is, the void, the unknown, may “transform” from absolute terror to infinite potential and joy.
The terror may not go away, but we may no longer experience it as negative.
It simply is.
Because we are simply allowing what is to be as it is.
This is intimate, inspiring connection with ourselves.
This is living as joy.
Everything we experience embodies this joy.
Because this joy has embodied us.
And our body, the void, as it is, never was, and is All.
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A version of this post was originally posted on TroyCohen.Wordpress.com and is republished on Medium.
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