Has there been such a turn in your relationship that you have got bored with them? Does it seem that life is going on the same track in which there is nothing like excitement? Does the same routine seem like every day? Are your relationships also slowly becoming routine?
The warmth, love and energy that keeps relationships alive have almost disappeared in them. In such a situation, if your relationships have become routine, and they have started looking boring, then why not change the routine of your relationships so that they smell full of freshness again.
Change your daily routine:
To try a new one, you have to change the old one. Those boring mornings running away in the morning to work, doing something for everyone… forget all this.
Get up early, take time for yourself. Go for a walk and take your partner, too. Then relax after coming home and drink morning tea or coffee together.
Start with this, the rest will go on.
Tips:
- Don’t let the heat of your relationship lose it over time.
- Don’t expect perfection in a relationship—leave room for a few shortcomings.
- And of course, keep working towards doing something new and positive in the relationship.
Try Something New:
Do something that will make the partner feel it has become amazing; we had not even thought of it. Whether you plan for surprises or give up, any such bad habit will make your partner feel happy and make him feel that you have done something for him. With this, you live those relationships a new way. In this way, you can bring this newness to your relationship.
Tips:
- Make each other feel special.
- It is very important to keep the laughter and romance alive.
- Complement your partner.
- Sometimes on his looks, sometimes on some other thing, a few words of praise work as magic.
- Make sure to put extra effort so that they feel how much you need and care about them.
- Always be alert to their needs.
Recreate Your Romantic Life:
There comes a time in relationships when responsibilities become a priority and romance disappears from life. If this is happening to you too, then stop it right now. No need to do much, just make your partner feel how much you love them.
Sometimes I make surprise phone calls, sometimes I message, plan dinner or movies, and sometimes I come home early from the office and spend time together.
Tips:
- Value your relationship. Understand its importance and save it from coldness in time.
- Give each other gifts and surprises.
- Go on romantic dates, too. Go to Holidays. Watch a movie, have fun.
- Make something special for your partner or wear the colour of your partner’s choice and tell them that it is only for you.
Do not ignore sex life:
Your relationship depends to a great extent on your sex life as well. From personal hygiene to taking care of each other’s needs… Don’t ignore anything. Sex is a way of expressing love—understand it well. Communicate what you like and dislike. Sex life should also not become routine to bring newness in it, change the bedroom decor, and try new sex poses and new ones.
Tips:
- The wife should not make the bedroom a kitchen or complaint room and the husband should not make the bedroom his second office.
- Don’t ignore sex. Keep making all efforts to attract the partner and stay attractive to them.
- Romantic flirting and messaging.
- Take care of sexual hygiene.
Do not hesitate to say anything Or share anything with your partner:
If you are upset about something or something is bothering you or feeling different about your relationship or partner talk. Simply say everything, this increases mutual trust.
Tips:
- Complaints are also necessary.
- Never think that everything is fine, then why say something on a silly matter. This approach is negative.
- When communication is low, both of you gradually go away and boredom spreads in the relationship.
Take care, And share Your feelings
If you haven’t made your partner realize how much you care for them, wake up before it’s too late. Caring and sharing are both very important. Share your happiness, your sorrow, your dreams… everything. Sharing is very important in relationships. If your partner has a problem, give him support.
Remember, when was the last time you both sat together and shared your feelings?
Tips:
- Sit close and ask hand,-in-hand how was the day?
- Ask whether there is any problem, whether the health is fine, whether you take care of your health…
- We are together to support each other… All these things will fill fresh energy in the relationship.
Share responsibilities And cooperate:
If you did not help each other with the work before then, do it now. This will lighten the work and distribute the responsibilities. Negotiate and decide who will take which responsibility and fulfil it honestly.
Tips:
- What work does your partner do and is there any workload on him? Be sure to keep this in mind.
- Partner says that from now on I will fill the bills, take the children to tuition and help them in their studies.
- Tell the partner that if there is more work in the office, then I will do some responsibilities of the house.
Respect each other and avoid hurting:
If a particular behaviour or thing hurts your partner, then avoid doing it. Maybe that thing is minor for you, but the partner does not like it, if you know that your behaviour can hurt the partner, then do not. If something like this happens by mistake, then apologize. Saying sorry strengthens relationships.
Tips:
- Don’t show immaturity in relationships.
- If there is any resentment about something, then talk, do not get angry and do childish acts.
- Do not use emotions for blackmailing.
- Do not put conditions that if you do not listen, then I will go to my maternal home or do not blackmail, even about sex.
Using a few magic words can bring out the relationship:
Say sorry whenever it is necessary, even if it is not your fault, but even if it is necessary for the relationship, no one will be less than apologizing. Similarly, say thank you. If your partner helps you with some work, then definitely say thank you or I love you. These are some magic words to keep your relationship from getting routine and boring.
Tips:
- It is up to you to decide when, where and how you can use these words to avoid boring your relationships.
- While going to the office, kiss on the forehead.
- The wife should also secretly write a note of I love you in her husband’s pocket.
- If the conversation is closed after the quarrel, then write sorry on the mirror with lipstick.
- If the partner wants to take the initiative, then reach the office and send a message to Miss You.
Take advice from each other:
Take the advice of your partner in every small and big decision and if it seems right, they also follow it. This will make the partner feel that you value their words. Do not make the mistake of thinking of yourself as the smartest and don’t even think that I know everything, what is the need to ask anyone. In this way, the consultation will bring both of you closer and there will be energy in the relationship.
Tips:
- Do not think that the partner is not aware of this matter, it will be beneficial to take advice on everything.
- Do financial planning and budget planning together.
- If there is any problem in the office, then definitely discuss it with the partner, do you know that only their little advice from your partner can make your work?
Change yourself a little and ignore some things, too:
If you have to bring a minor change in yourself for your relationship, then definitely try it. Similarly, ignore some things so that the relationship does not become routine—for example, you may like nothing or the habit of the partner, but it is better to ignore or explain with love than to interrupt them again and again. Respect the distinct personality of the partner.
Tips:
- Ignoring and adjusting some things is also the art of maintaining relationships.
- Adjust both a little.
- The husband should not think that only the wife should adjust and neither should the wife think that.
Be physically fit, don’t ignore your body:
If you stay healthy, your relationship is healthy, too. After marriage, people often start ignoring their physical appearance, they felt that what is left is only work and responsibilities. Then where do you get the time… But get out of this thinking now.
Look at yourself in the mirror, see where you need to work. Men’s belly comes out after marriage, while women’s waist size increases. It would be better to take a fitness challenge for each other. Walk, jog, or exercise together. This will also allow you to spend time with each other.
Both should set a goal that how many kilos they will lose in a month and who will be fit first… If you stay fit, you will also look attractive and save the relationship from getting boring.
Tips:
- Take full care of your health and fitness and show your partner that you want to continue attractive to them.
- Workout together. Jog in the morning or go on an evening walk together after dinner.
Join a fitness class, hobby class, or swimming
Do something special for each other, motivate and challenge yourself and your partner:
Can you break some bad habits for your partner? If you drink or smoke which partner and kids don’t like, tell a partner that I will try to leave it for you, but you also have to control your habit of getting angry with me unnecessarily… like this Challenge. Or if your wife spends too much, then challenge each other to try your best to control your bad habits.
Tips:
- To continue interested in each other, it is important that you should be interested in yourself first.
- Try to leave your bad habits and make them feel like doing something for the partner.
- If the partner is more tired someday, then do some work on their part.
- Cook something for your wife one day.
- Surprise each other’s family members by inviting them suddenly.
- Apart from all this, maintain your looks and style too so that the partner’s interest continues.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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