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I was recently asked what masculinity and being a Man means to me. (Forever un-learning, and refining).
Masculinity and femininity at their core, to me, are simply creative energies, not defined by male or female. One extends out into the world in a display of power, like a hammer, the other lures what it wants inwards, nurturing, and blooming, like a flower.
Going deeper;
For me, my simplest truest thought at the moment, I believe a ‘Man’ is strong, yet soft.
A gentle, love filled, creative, warrior.
Passionate. Understanding. Innovates. Learns. Doesn’t take things personally or make assumptions. His words carry weight, and he knows the power of it. Creative and destructive.
A man is also playful, cheeky, childishly flows, yet also firm and decisive.
He respects women, fathers children, and, or, teaches/gives back to his community and tribe.
He expresses his masculinity as a man, proud, loud -but he also knows how to display power silently, or playfully.
He is charged, but can transmute his charge to achieve and create, (or destroy if not careful) things greater than himself.
He can be in his feminine energy alone, with other Men, or women. Free of ego, shame, and guilt.
He doesn’t ‘need’ to display power. The way he carries himself, holds space… it’s seen and felt, effortlessly.
A man questions, seeks truth.
Asks for help.
A man is bit of a contradiction!
But that’s what makes him a mystery, that’s what intrigues the feminine enough to draw him in.
I’ve been pondering for 15 minutes, maybe it’s late, or maybe I don’t see it as black and white/male and female anymore.
Every time I go to say ‘well a masculine trait is…’ I see myself beginning to use stereotypes, and finding examples of women or feminine energy having the same in it.
I guess… and I am still amidst redefining my truths, that masculine energy can be very blunt and aggressive when creating.
When a boy balances his feminine; Learns to step, and walk, then sit, in, to his feminine energy, he becomes a Man.
Strong.
But soft.
A man seeks his calling.
To find his purpose.
To complete his mission.
He leaves a legacy.
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Previously published on Facebook.
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