I’ve been reading the blogs and Reddits of people who hate me lately, and all of this has bubbled up in the form of a rant! To wit:
YES I AM A FUCKING FEMINIST.
I am not sure what I have to do to CONVEY this message to some people. Interpretive dance? Commission a plane to drop leaflets around the world that says “Ozy Is A Feminist Blogger”? Put a disclaimer in front of every post that says “I know more about The Second Sex than you do, do not fuck with me”?
I mean, it is just fucking dispiriting to read people arguing against me and saying positions I agree with. I’m not even sure what you do with that. It’s like finding a screed on the Internet going all “I think Ozy Frantz is a stupid fuckhead because zie believes that dinosaurs and humans live at the same time! Dinosaurs and humans didn’t live at the same time, you moron. We have carbon-dating evidence of that!” I know! Stop arguing with me!
Second, I am not interested in dialogue with MRAs. It’s an oddly common idea that if you’re interested in talking about how the patriarchy has disadvantaged men, you want to establish a common ground between MRAs and feminists and resolve their differences and lead us all into a happy utopia of singing Kumbaya and holding hands.
Fuck that shit. That’s like saying that because you think that sex-positivity needs more awareness and validation of the experience of asexuals, low-libido people, and those who only want sex within committed monogamous relationships you should go hang out with the abstinence-only crowd. What the fuck? Why am I going to give up on a movement that, although very flawed, I fundamentally agree with in order to make nice with a movement I don’t?
Don’t get me wrong: if you’re an MRA, and you like NSWATM and get a lot out of it, I’m not going to send my flying monkey minions to stop you from reading it. You’re welcome to comment, as long as you mostly refrain from being a stupid fuckhead, a term which is here defined as “perpetrating rape culture, transphobia, the idea that feminism is the most important cause of sexism against men, or the idea that Trayvon Martin was shot in self-defense on account of he smoked pot.” I am not biased against MRAs, I am biased against stupid fuckheads, who come in all kinds of stupid and fuckheadish disguises.
(Tangential rant: what’s up with this whole “moderate MRAs” and “moderate feminists” shit? Moderation is not necessarily a good thing! A lot of my viewpoints are very extreme compared to the mainstream– complete legalization of sex work, the existence of genders outside the binary, etc. I just happen to be, you know, right.)
And if you personally want to work on building a bridge between MRAs and feminists, knock yourself out. That completely and utterly thankless task can be yours now! I just don’t want to do it, and I’m kind of miffed that it’s assumed that I want to do it just because I’m a feminist talking about men. I don’t want to! I just want to talk about men! Is that allowed?
Third, my pronoun is “zie.” It is really not difficult. And every time you complain about it it just means that, in addition to ameliorating my gender dysphoria, I’m ALSO pissing off people I don’t like. And in case you haven’t noticed, pissing off people I don’t like is like chocolate orgasm Christmas to me.