Everything seemed fine on the first date.
That is until they drive off, and you never hear from them again.
If you’ve ever used an online dating app, you might be familiar with ghosting. If not, no worries here’s a quick rundown.
Ghost·ing
Cutting off contact with a person without giving them a reason or forewarning.
Yes, in the new era of dating, it is pretty common for people to disappear like Casper after the first date. And yes, like most of us, you are probably scratching your head and wondering why they ghosted you.
Let’s explore some of the possibilities.
You were not compatible
The person felt like you two weren’t a good fit, so they backed off. This does not mean anything is wrong with you. The thing is, you can’t force compatibility. Keep being you. Besides, the right person will come along, and trust me, ghosting you will be the furthest thing from their mind.
They got back with their ex
That’s right. Their ex is back in the picture, so they stopped replying to your messages. Who wants to be a rebound anyway?
They sensed red flags
You have to be mindful of how you unload and what you unload. Most people will disappear with no exit speech when they sense red flags while getting to know you. Maybe they suspected too much baggage and drama.
They were just passing time
Yes, some people download dating apps and go on dates out of boredom with no intentions of following through. It’s cold I know, but unfortunately, this happens more often than you would think. Don’t sweat it, they weren’t serious in the first place.
Their communication skills need work
If a person won’t come out and tell you what the problem is, that is a reflection of their communication skills and maturity. It says a lot about how they will handle future conversations. Or may conveniently ghost you every time a conflict arises.
They are full of it
A lot of times the person is involved in a situation or situation(s). Whatever the case, some people would much rather disappear to avoid being honest. You probably dodged a bullet.
They only wanted to hook up
They were looking for a hookup and oops. Right day. Wrong person.
A person’s reason for disappearing could be for something so small and beyond your control.
Keep this in mind:
Ghosting says more about them than you.
If it’s bothering you a lot, you could just ask them why?
Be straightforward.
There are millions of humans in this world. Don’t spend too much time overthinking and pressed about the ONE who ghosted you.
Their loss.
“This one guy ghosted me because I was a Taurus. He said they are the most boring sign.” -April K.
“It’s a maturity and respect thing.” — Kyle C.
“She didn’t look anything like her Tinder profile pic.” — Jason J.
“He was getting on my d*mn nerves so he got blocked and ghosted.” — Candice B.
“I’ll ghost someone for trying to force a conversation on me that I previously made clear that I did not want to have or be a part of.” — Neil A.
Share your ghosting stories! Have you ever been ghosted or ghosted someone?
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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