This comment was by Rog on the post “Why Men Experience Post O Regret” by Stephen Petteruti.
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“Let me talk about love. Maybe other factors too but just to make it simple, love.
Are you in love with the partner before any of this? After any of this? To the point where sex is just something that happens and is enjoyed with the person you adore, but it doesn’t define it? You still adore them and love being with them when sex isn’t happening?
Do you think you still have a feeling of regret during the refractory period now? When you’re in love? Generally, doubtful. Love is where you look at that face and hold that body and even though physically you feel done for the moment, the magic is still there in the air between you, in the looks, in the holding, in the resting and just breathing for a minute with each other. Blah blah blah.
If you WEREN’T in love with them. If you only enjoyed the physical aspect, attraction, lust, whathaveyou. Doesn’t it make SENSE that there’s regret when that part is over and there’s nothing else to sustain a common ground between you? The chasm opens wide and deep. We have nothing in common. We’re not in love. Not on the same path.
You were hot tho, that was fun.”
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