When you come from a place of love and appreciation for yourself, meeting the woman of your dreams will take care of itself .
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One of man’s biggest quests, is to meet the woman of his dreams. It occupies our minds perhaps more than anything else, until that day when we finds the one who quells his desire to continue the hunt.
As you may know, this quest can become really complicated. There’s a ton of advice on the internet about how to meet the woman of your dreams including ideas such as creating a vision of your perfect partner, memorizing the best 100 chat up lines ever, learning how to do magic tricks, or how to dress to impress, or the listing of thousands of courses you can take to help you build your confidence with women, etc.
In my time I’ve explored numerous strategies I thought would help me to be successful with women, but to be honest most were a waste of time, especially if your goal is to meet women you really want to be with, rather than just acquire a notch on the bed post!
My thinking today is actually…you don’t need any fancy tricks or strategies. I’m not saying being able to hold a conversation or being clear what you want in a woman isn’t useful. Of course it is. But what if meeting the kind of woman who’s going to knock you off your feet, blow your mind and leave you wondering how you got so damn lucky was way simpler than having to bother learning the latest dating technique?
Wouldn’t that be of interest?
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What if all you have to do is stop striving so hard to be somebody else, quit wanting to add more to your life because you feel like you’re not enough and start learning to love yourself like you want to be loved by a woman. The way I see it—you have to fall into your own heart before you can expect a woman to really give you hers.
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It’s Simple to Meet the Woman of Your Dreams
Simple, but not necessarily easy, because for a lot of men it feels alien to be OK with themselves and their life just as it is. Instead we’re often transfixed with the idea that we need to add more to our lives so that we can become “a somebody”, but real success isn’t a process of accumulation.
That said, there’s a very seductive idea going around which suggests to succeed with women you have to be “a somebody” (you’ll have your own ideas about what this means). To generalize I’d say most men would agree that ‘a somebody” is man who’s confident, flying high in their field, financially well off, has the house, the car, walks the talk and wears expensive clothes, for starters.
The thing is, your ego will protest otherwise, because it’s an illusion. Don’t get me wrong, I love the finer things in life and I am all for excelling in what I do, but in my experience all of that is often a cover up for insecurity. The problem with trying to make yourself look like “a somebody” is it can become a charade, because even with all the things you believe will impress the woman of your dreams, your feelings of insecurity will remain.
This means it’s more than likely you’ll end up with women who feel the same way you do, which isn’t usually the recipe for a blossoming relationship. The women you meet will always be a projection of the man you think you are, irrespective of how much stuff you have or how much you try to be someone other than yourself.
Trying to be “a somebody” is the problem with most dating advice, which often dictates you need more than you are to succeed with women. Without the work that’s required to be totally comfortable with who you are, you’ll always look to other people’s advice, tips, tricks and strategies because you don’t think you’ve got what it takes.
But the point of dating and relationships is to deeply connect with the woman you’re with, which only happens when you’re OK being you without any acting, strategies or pretenses.
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You Are Already Enough
So my advice if you want to meet the woman of your dreams is to stop your quest to be “a somebody” and learn to fully accept who you are right now. I am not saying give up on your goals, buying nice clothes or going to the gym, and so on, but stop striving to be more, you’re already enough.
I urge you to dedicate your life to continual improvement, to be the best you can. Life has gifted you your own personal laboratory to experiment in, but the experiments will have more impact when they come from a place of the deep knowing you already have within you; everything you need to be to meet the woman of your dreams and achieve whatever ignites your soul.
When you see this you can stop the hunt. Make fun, enjoyment and following your passions the priority because I guarantee that If you’re coming from a place of love and appreciation for yourself, meeting the woman of your dreams will take care of itself. Superficial efforts will merely get in the way of you being yourself; that’s what the woman of your dreams will really wants to see.
Bearing all this in mind, how would you show up in the world if you already knew you had all you needed to meet the woman of your dreams and create the kind of life you want?
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