There are clues all around you, but you may not see them just yet.
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Falling in love isn’t as obvious as you’d think. There’s no such thing as love at first sight — not real love, anyway. Love takes time to build; it requires nurturing.
Even falling in love takes time. Especially if we’re still recovering from previous relationships.
We don’t realize we’re in love the second we fall into it. Instead, the realization takes the form of an epiphany and hits us when we least expect it. You have to be in love first in order to understand you are in love — it’s only logical.
There are, however, some little, unobvious things to let you know when it’s time to let yourself fall.
1. You have an urge to hang out with this person daily — even if you know better than to do so.
You always seem to have a great time when the two of you spend time together and find you’d be happy to see him or her whenever.
You’re more than likely having to hold yourself back from asking to see this person for the fifth day in a row, but you sort of miss him or her. Plus, you know your day will get that much better as soon as you start chatting.
2. When you aren’t together, this person still makes it into your thoughts.
This is how it all begins: First, you think about him or her on occasion; then you think about him or her once or twice a day, and eventually you can’t stop thinking about him or her at all.
Love and obsession go hand in hand — the obsession part is what we call romantic love. Obsessions don’t form overnight, but take time to build. If you’re already thinking about him or her with growing regularity, you may very well be falling for this person.
3. Whenever this person does make it into your thoughts, you smile instantly.
You can’t help it. And you know what? You wouldn’t help it, even if you could. Just one thought about that face of his or hers, and you can’t help but feel… happier.
A person who can make you smile without even being present is a person worth keeping around. He or she, quite literally, makes your life more enjoyable — better.
If you have someone in your life who makes you shine those pearly whites, consider yourself lucky.
4. You spend longer getting ready to see this person than you spend getting ready for anything or anyone else.
This one is easiest to overlook as we’re too busy running around and prepping to even realize how much effort we’re putting into it.
If you always try to look, smell and taste your best, you may be in love. It may take you twice as long to get ready before seeing him or her, but you don’t care. To you, it’s worth the trouble.
5. Every time you see this person, you feel a little nervous — even though you know you have no reason to be.
You’ve seen him or her tens of times and you nevertheless still get those butterflies flapping around in your stomach.
You know you have no reason to be nervous, but at the same time, the excitement you feel can’t be helped. Besides, you sort of like feeling this way.
6. You’re not sure why, but you love looking into this person’s eyes.
I mean, you like looking at the rest of him or her as well. But the eyes especially draw you in. It’s because you see something in them you aren’t used to seeing.
In his or her eyes, you both see the person few people know him or her to be as well as a bit of yourself. You aren’t sure if it’s because you were always a little part of him or her or if you’ve recently become a part of him or her, but you’re certain you now are a part of him or her.
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I used to feel this way about a certain person… until he started being mean to me on a fairly regular basis. I don’t smile anymore when I think of him, but I do still love him – from a very large distance. I hope that goes away someday, so I can be free again. Spot on, though. These are all exquisitely delightful little signs, indeed.