One young woman explains that it’s not what you think.
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It is truly amazing to look at the differences between society today and society back in the 1900’s. For instance, in this post I want to talk about something that would be mind-boggling for your great-grandparents to hear about. There is a new term that has been floating around for a little while now—“Netflix and Chill.”
I know that most of you already know what this term stands for, but for those of you who do not, please allow me to enlighten you. For people who are completely in the dark regarding this teeny-bopper language, it does not seem to be that big of a deal and it sounds like something that is totally innocent. I am truly sorry to burst your bubble, but it’s definitely not innocent. “Netflix and Chill” is a code for two people to attempt to watch a movie, but end up “chilling”—actually having sex, or fooling around.
“Netflix and Chill” is a code for two people to attempt to watch a movie, but end up “chilling”—actually having sex, or fooling around.
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I am right there with the older crowd when it comes to bluntness and straightforwardness. When somebody tells me something, I take it for what they said. I am not into codes or underlying meanings at all.
If someone asked me to come over to watch Netflix and chill, your parents would be home and I would be expecting you to have a complete lineup of rom-com movies or maybe a Friends marathon ready. As far as the “chill” goes, I expect you to have a variety of healthy, or non-healthy, snacks lined up for me to choose from, maybe even some hot chocolate ready to pour if it’s chilly out and some great conversation ready to go. Please riddle me this: Why would you possibly want anything else?
For me, this is what a very nice, relaxing and no-pressure date night, once we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend, looks like. I also believe you should be official before participating in my definition of Netflix and Chill!
What girls like me think of this new-fangled thing is that it is just an easy way for guys to try and get into our pants.
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What girls like me think of this new-fangled thing is that it is just an easy way for guys to try and get into our pants. (Now, I am not just calling out all guys because girls are part of the issue as well.) This tactic is overrated and immature. Why don’t you simply try to impress her? Ask her out for a nice ice cream date or something. That will surely sweep her off of her feet! Unless she hates ice cream for some ungodly reason, then do not do that. Definitely get to know her likes and dislikes.
I am sorry, boys, you will not be “Netflix and Chilling” with this girl anytime soon; you will have to get a ring on my finger first! Watching movies has always been one of my favorite things to do, so when people take something so innocent and turn it into something else, it’s disappointing.
Source: 30dB.com – Netflix and Chill
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Photo: Flickr/James Lee
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Thank you! A girl with values and self-respect who doesn’t just give it over with the greatest of ease on the guy’s part. I’m with you–it’s lazy and disrespectful on his part. But some girls [low hanging fruit] don’t have enough confidence in themselves to demand more. Thus this reinvented cultural phenomenon. Why do they do it? Why, that one’s easy. Because it works…and he has nothing to lose by seeing if it works with you, too. Glad to read the post.
Buhuhahahaha. This is nothing new. Netflix has simply replaced Blockbuster (or whatever rental chain you prefer) and “chill” or “hang out”. Getting in the girl’s/boy’s pants was always part of the equation. Before that it was going to the Drive-In movies. Nothing to see here, people. Move along….
I think it’s funny that the author is arguing over a meme being used a a euphemism for sex. Specifically a meme that says the ladies know all about your plans and aren’t even remotely amused by it.
I wish to add a comic as a tangential reference: http://iamarg.com/2015/10/28/euphemism/
Ha! I didn’t even know it was a meme with that meaning. That makes this even funnier.
Hey Nolan – I don’t think the author is ‘arguing’ over anything. She’s simply telling you her perspective. Considering the fact that three women responded to this article agreeing, perhaps it’s something that should be considered? The basis of this just about respect. “nextflix and chill’ doesn’t make some of girls feel very respected.
I think there is some confusion here. I have never heard anyone seriously use the phrase “netflix and chill” in fact it’s almost entirely a meme at this point: http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/netflix-and-chill
Please read, it is quite literally a reference to the often time inevitable sexual conduct when people hang out, in their pajamas, with the curtains drawn and a movie on. It is not a sly attempt at getting in a woman’s pants.
I don’t think Breanna said it was anything ‘new’. I think she was making the point that actually going out on a date, like going out for an ice cream, would be a nicer thing rather than using manipulative language that turns ‘chill’ into a very casual word for ‘sex’. And I highly doubt girls use ‘netflix and chill’ to get into boy’s pants. Even though you tried to make it sound like girls/boys are doing this is ‘equal’ measure. Lastly, I think people can decide for themselves what they want to talk about without you telling them when to… Read more »
From the article – What girls like me think of this new-fangled thing is that it is just an easy way for guys to try and get into our pants. (Now, I am not just calling out all guys because girls are part of the issue as well.) Whoops, I read this as her thinking this is new. I say in specifics, yes, in tactics, no (Kira’s comment uses a good word – recycled) As for whether girls do it, I wasn’t sticking to the heteronormative viewpoint in my thinking. I was trying to be egalitarian and thinking more along… Read more »
I understand the desire to be egalitarian and fair in everything and acknowledging other kinds of relationships. But clearly the author was writing from a heterosexual perspective.That’s not wrong onto itself. I don’t know what the experience of boy/boy or girl/girl relationships are with ‘netflix and chill’, but in most heterosexual relationships – the reality is that it’s probably going to be something the guy is going to push more for. Sometimes representing issues as completely egalitarian ignores the reality that they aren’t always infact egalitarian. And we may be doing ourselves an injustice to pretend that everything is equal… Read more »
“But clearly the author was writing from a heterosexual perspective.That’s not wrong onto itself.” Didn’t say it was. I just responded in a manner that allowed for more options. “I don’t know what the experience of boy/boy or girl/girl relationships are with ‘netflix and chill’, but in most heterosexual relationships – the reality is that it’s probably going to be something the guy is going to push more for.” No problem. I agree. “Sometimes representing issues as completely egalitarian ignores the reality that they aren’t always infact egalitarian. And we may be doing ourselves an injustice to pretend that everything… Read more »
“Good luck to you Erin. I hope you find the argument partner you are looking for.” Huh? This is a website that encourages debate, discussion and dialogue between people. I found some issues with your comments (and still do) and I commented on them. Many people here are able to engage in discussion without attacking and degrading someone else by wishing they find the ‘argument partner’ they ‘are looking for’ – that was a pretty petty comment to make. The fact that I disagree with what you and took your comments at face value doesn’t mean I am looking for… Read more »