Why Don’t Women Like Nice Guys?

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  1. Because you have to be a challenge to women, in other words you can’t talk to them everyday or every other day, you have to let them miss you a lot, they always have to be second place to work, career, sports, etc… women aren’t very logical, they want a love story. That story includes you always being out with friends and other women, you never ever txting them. In other words its not about her, its about you, your just being nice enough to let her tag along sometimes…. also on dates, keep it light, keep it funny. No serious talk at all, and do not ever conversate on the phone. The phone is only used to set up appointmens. And never see them more than twice in one week, and every other week, only contact her once that week… do this, I promise you’ll never have a girl problem again….

    • I disagree Jay. I don’t need a challenge. I am busy enough. I don’t want a love story or a fairy tale. That’s terribly unrealistic. I throughly expect anyone who likes me to call me. If all you do is text and then it’s only on occasion, then obviously you don’t like me enough and I haven’t the time for someone who isn’t going to put me first when it’s important. That’s a great way to keep a lot of girlfriends, sexual partners and friends, but not good for a serious long term relationship.

  2. It’s not that women like the bad boys or seek them out. We end up with them sometimes.

    But ask yourself, are you a nice guy? I can’t tell you how many self proclaimed nice guys I have dated(and ask any friend, I have never dated a man for his looks…brains are my thing). In fact, if you are calling yourself a nice guy and wonder why you aren’t banging a supermodel, you might want to return your nice guy card.

    Lets assume for right now you are a nice guy. Do you really want to be dating half the women today? With feminism trying to turn the female populous into men, you really probably don’t. Women are trying to prove their empowerment by sleeping with lots of men so STDs are on the rise.

    If we date bad boys it’s for several reasons.

    1)Confidence: Jerks, Douchbags, and A**holes have a great deal of confidence. We (women) know they won’t be pining at home wondering where we are and if we have run off with the hot guy next door. That goes a long way. That guy who is standing up straight garnering attention ala a true alpha is really sexy.

    2)No Whining: We hate men who whine. That’s almost as great a turn off as pulling your little friend out of your pants in a museum(yes it has happened to me). “Aww, poor me. Why can’t I get a hot girlfriend?” Women want someone to have a baby with, not a man who covers both roles.

    3)Predictability: We know what we are getting into with bad boys.

    • @Lilly..

      I do not regard myself as Mr. Nice. However, I am no bad boy either. I think most men are somewhere in between. Bad boys are probably 20% of men. But, maybe the 80/20 rules applies? They (bad boys) certainly get a disproportionate amount of the action. I think we can all agree on that.

      You said, “We (women) know they won’t be pining at home wondering where we are and if we have run off with the hot guy next door. ”

      Of course!!!! You really don’t care either way. Most bad boys are shtupping you and several other women as well. Most women know this. The guy has lots of options. Since most women are only interested in these kinds of men for short-term sexual relationships or someone to fill a void, him not pining over you is a red herring. Come on Lilly, let’s be honest here.

      As for women having lots of partners, it is their own biz. I have zero interest in such women. I am a very low partner man (less than 7) and I am only interested in similar.

      The bad boys might have the confidence, the c**ks, the swagger blah blah blah. But, we have the $$$$. In America, money talks and bullshit talks!!! Men have gotten wise and simply are no longer interested in long term relationships. There just isn’t much there for us.

      We are never going to enjoy the sex that most women served up to their bad boy lover. So, why enter into marriage or LTRs if she is going to treat you in a manner inferior to her bad boy lover. Thanks but “No Thanks!”

  3. Im gonna say this…WOMEN DON’T REALLY LIKE BAD BOYS. Disagree? Let’s make a comparison. If there is a nice guy who is good at sports, and knows how to dance, takes care of his health, and a bad guy who has the same traits, who do you think wins? The nice guy of course. Oh, but they’re boring and they’re not a challenge. Well ladies, when you date a bad boy, you already know you will get your feelings hurt. Yawnnnnnnn. This means that bad guys are just as boring, if not more! Which one is more than likely to have a good job, the nice guy! I will say this, there are “nice guys” who act nice only to you just to get in your pants, or try to, idk. THOSE AREN’T NICE GUYS
    Look, I am a nice guy who happens to be good at sports,and I treat EVERYBODY with respect, even the ones I don’t care for. That’s the way God wants us all to be. Yeah I was bad up until about 8th grade, when my parents decided that I needed a change. I have girls always talking to me. Too bad I have to tell them I’ve been with the same beautiful woman for 3 YEARS! I think that most girls are talking about “nice guys” who are fat, lazy, or smell bad, because obviously their personalities are good. Nice guys, get out of the house, start taking care of your health, pick up sports, because I seriously doubt that a girl can say no to a nice guy who is athletic! NEVER change to a bad guy! Peace out..

  4. when did they ever?, but many of these type of women are such losers anyway.

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