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About Registered Runaway

The anonymous blogger behind Registered Runaways: his battle cry is for community. For keepers. For safe people to show up. He calls on his readers to roll up their sleeves, trade tales of their bruises, and deny the lie that we’re alone. You can follow him on Twitter at @registeredruna1.


  1. Richard Aubrey says:

    Stereotypes again?
    Do we have any empirical basis for claiming there’s a stereotype.
    Sure, not all Californians are liberal, but that’s the way to bet until you find out he’s trying to leave.
    I had an Army buddy who’s not only gay but an activist in a big-city gay scene. Never had a clue. He was hard-core Infantry. I didn’t find out until thirty years later and a couple of other friends remarked we couldn’t tell even in hindsight.
    The half-wit entertainment media don’t tell you all gays are flamboyant. They tell you that effeminately flamboyant people are gay. That might be a stereotype, too.
    Since gays are not straight, it would follow there may be some differences. Some might even be noticeable.

    • Stereotypes again?
      Do we have any empirical basis for claiming there’s a stereotype.

      Yup – been there – seen it – done it – the sling backs were hell! P^)

      Failing that – just google – Will and Grace – Queer Guy With the Straight Eye – Sex In The City …. uhm do you need to get any more empirical such as an academic paper?

      There is a whole library of scholastic titillation and all for free on http://scholar.google.com and just search for gay+media+stereotype – my favourite is “Making the Ad Perfectly Queer: Marketing” Normality” to the Gay Men’s Community?” – and seeing how there is stereotype of how to make the stereotypical queer guy stereotypically straight … well it was a revelation!

      If that lot aint empirical enough you can find your own stereotypes and stick them where trial-and-error goes!

  2. Richard Aubrey says:

    You’ll note I referred dismissively to “half-wit”entertainment media. They do, I suppose. Wouldn’t know. I don’t watch the alphabets. Sitcoms have come and gone without my viewing a single episode.
    I was referring to the rest of the world.
    As should have been plain. However, if it is plain, you need something else, so you refer to that which I agreed dismissively did stereotype. I think.

    • Richard – you will have to forgive this Empiracle Queer for finding so much about cookie cutter stereotypes beyond half baked.

      I’m so out loud and proud people are shocked at the idea that I have ever been in a room with a closet. I have worked over many years over a number of settings. One involved Logistics and getting heavy kit round the planet – for 6 years the guys I worked with just thought I was straight, until my other half turned up to meet us in a Hotel in Bangcock and I sucked his face off in the lobby and then excused myself explaining we were off to my suite to get it on big style. The jaws on the floor were all crystal.

      The next morning my other half was gone – flight on to Australia – so I’m having breakfast and the guys are all looking. One was really shocked and said “But the other guy is as butch as you. Couldn’t you find a girlly one?”. After that you can imagine the joking, I blow someone a kiss and the other guys tell the guy he’s definitely gotten more girly!

      I’ve been on the front lines and seen too much to take a great deal seriously when it comes to stereotypes and queer land! I’m also not one for the Queer and gay and other Stereotypes. I’ve been on the front line for equality in UK/Europe since the start of the 1980′s – over 30 years. We used human rights as the fulcrum to move the seesaw and get laws and society changed. If I ever find a law promoting Stereotypes I’ll kill it stone dead, but until then I’ll just deal with the ones’ the promote error and prejudice … Butch or Brassy … and if necessary with a little glitter and spiked high heals size 18.


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