5 Things That Will Make Your Relationship Magical

“Love is the closest thing we have to magic.” — Aquamarine

Creating magical moments in your relationship is something most people think about but few people do.

My friend Sharon and her partner Joe have been together for 8 years now, but they still bring magic to their relationship, and it spills over onto us who are in their circles.

Joe still buys her flowers and takes her on dates like he just met her yesterday. She still likes to get all dolled up for him and buys him his favourite things frequently. They look at each other like they are stuck in a loop of falling in love with each other every single day.

I asked Joe what makes their relationship so magical.

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Joe was earnest in his response.

He said, “When you know that you have found the perfect partner for you, you want to make sure that she feels the same about you.

You are crazy about her and want to make her feel happy with you, that’s why you are ready to make all the sacrifices to impress her, to show her how much you care about her, or to not permit that routine to come into your relationship.”

To make their relationship magical 8 years down the road, he said love is a long game.

You make sacrifices to show your partner your feelings, to keep your relationship as cool as it was at the beginning, you feel that you have to make something more interesting.

That’s why you should induce “magic “into your relationship even if you are hopeless romantic or not. To add more intimacy, love, understanding and compassion in any relationship is always welcome.

Here are the 5 things that Joe shared that anyone can adopt to make their relationship more magical.

1. Surprise Your Partner With Things That Make Them Feel Loved

“You are the best thing i never planned.” — Anonymous

Sharon is a coffee addict. She will take coffee in whatever form it is presented. She is the only person I know who likes to chew the roasted coffee beans.

Joe knows this and frequently surprises her with coffee treats. He especially likes to surprise her with coffee in bed in the morning.

Sharon described what it feels like when Joe brings her coffee in bed.

“I slowly edge my mind out of deep slumber. The clouds roll away as the smell of coffee penetrates the fog. I open my eyes to a smile that grows stronger as my own begins. The aroma of that promising brew causes my eyes to shift to the hand that holds the sweet cup. ‘Good morning, my love.’”

“Coffee in bed. Oh, how divine!” she added wistfully

When her husband brings her coffee in bed, she knows he not only loves her, he cherishes her. And nothing means more to her first thing in the morning than a good cup of strong French roast. Having it brought to her in bed is the icing on the cake.

What you can do:

Surprise your partner with thoughtful acts of service — it could be coffee in bed, or a random lunch date. Keep the thoughtful surprises abundant in your relationship and it will be magical.

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2. Spend Time With Your Partner

Spend quality time with those you love. One of these days you will either say “I wish I had” or “I am glad I did”. — Zig Ziglar

The greatest gift you can give someone is that of your time. Because when you give your time away to someone, that is something you can never get back.

In all successful relationships, the couple invest in spending some quality time together.

This could be doing in activities they both really enjoy, or you could watch a movie, or do a lot of nothing. It could also be setting up a picnic and enjoying the fresh air, or going for a long walk together.

What matters is that the couple spends time with each other with minimal distractions from the outside world. Life is not a matter of milestones, but multitudes of moments.

What You Can Do:

When you spend time with your partner, give them your full, undivided attention. Ensure that the time you spend together is of the best quality it can be.

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3. Write Your Partner A Letter Or Poem Telling Them How Much They Mean To You

“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. The words we choose and how we use them can build others up or tear them down.” — Yehuda Berg

Words of affirmation are any spoken or written words that affirm, support, uplift, and positively empathize with another person.

Does your partner place an unusual amount of significance on the spoken and written word? If they get a thrill when you demonstrate sweet expressions of appreciation, compliments, gratitude, and encouragement, you can make your relationship more magical by telling them words of affirmation.

There is a phenomenal healing power of words from your partner when you are hurting. The elation which comes from a note left just for you. How you reread every note or letter he ever wrote and how cherished your letterbox.

Sometimes, words speak louder than actions.

Words are so powerful. They can heal or break a heart. They can liberate a soul or shame it. They can energize dreams or shatter them. They can invite connection or obstruct it. They can melt defences or create them. We have to use our words for love.

What you can do:

To make your relationship more magical through words, be more vocal about the positive aspects you want to highlight about them. Your relationship will thrive as a result.

Compliment your partner often, express your feelings verbally, tell them how awesome they are, and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

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4. Give Them Thoughtful Gifts From The Heart

Some gifts are big. Others are small. But the ones that come from the heart are the best gifts of all. — Tinku Razoria

Giving your partner gifts will make your relationship more magical.

Your partner loving the gifts you get them should not be mistaken for materialism. They are not the same thing.

Your partner thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift.

Gifts and gestures make your partner feel loved, valued, and cared for. Your partner enjoys the thoughtfulness and effort behind a visual representation of love.

The best gifts are always the most meaningful ones.

The gifts do not have to be extravagant.

It is the thought (and actual gifting) that counts.

What you can do:

If you struggle to get a gift for your partner, ask their friends and family to guide you on what you should get.

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5. Touch, Cuddle, Caress, And Hold Your Partner With Emotions Of Love

“The human touch is that little snippet of physical affection that brings a bit of comfort, support, and kindness. It doesn’t take much from the one who gives it, but can make a huge difference in the one who receives it.” — Mya Robarts

For a relationship to thrive and be considered magical, physical presence and accessibility are very important.

You may express love through physical touch by doing the following — giving hugs and cuddles, pats on the back, holding hands, kissing, playing with their hair, tapping them as you walk by, massage, any reassuring touch, and just being close to your partner as much as possible.

According to psychology cuddling is more effective than sleeping pills when it comes to achieving a good night’s rest.

Always grant your partner a touch of your love through the skin to skin contact.

What you can do:

Give your partner as much physical contact as you can. Avoid neglecting them or subjecting them to abuse of any kind.

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For Joe and Sharon, all the 5 actions are done without expecting anything in return — and yet they are usually fully reciprocated.

You can adopt all the above for you and your partner, to bring more romance into your relationship.

Taking the time to create romance and bring magic into your relationship is paramount to creating a fulfilling love life.

Even if you think your ideas are silly, your partner will be thrilled that you gave the thought and took the time to do something loving and giving.

I wish you all the happiness that comes from magical relationships.

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This post was previously published on Medium.

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