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Love doesn’t change. But dating does! Over the last decade, dating apps exploded, making it possible to meet people with the swipe of a finger.
Now the next stage could be about to begin. With all the excitement about the Metaverse, will the future of dating be lived in the virtual world? Facebook, Tinder, and other big tech companies are all looking to get on board. Will you?
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what is
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the metaverse
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the metaverse you know if something is
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meta it’s above or outside of you know
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that’s why you got metaphysics which is
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like what the nature of things of
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themselves you know but the metaverse is
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essentially an alternate universe above
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or outside of our own universe
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it’s seen as this is where the internet
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is going this is the next stage
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now sometimes these things go on endless
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hype cycles and never live up to it
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but
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sometimes it really is where things are
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going
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we may be in the early stages we don’t
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know but the idea is you have virtual
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reality you have full
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online spaces you have
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uh worlds you can actually immerse
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yourself in completely where there might
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be the office shopping uh
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hanging out with people going to bars
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conferencing and all this stuff we’re
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doing now sat in front of our screens
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we might do in a ready player one
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type scenario so okay how does the
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metaverse relate to dating steve well
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this has been a sort of topic that’s
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suddenly come to light yeah so obviously
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online dating it you know it’s been
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around a long time now but it like
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obviously exploded over the last decade
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with tinder and the apps and it really
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came into its own and that’s something
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that was always there but
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then really tipped over into mainstream
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and i suppose this could go the same way
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i suspect it will just live alongside
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the current internet i don’t know if it
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will replace it entirely but
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the idea is that you know everyone knows
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match is the biggest like dating company
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they own tinder and a bunch of the big
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dating apps
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and i think they see it as
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there’s this company called hyperconnect
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in korea and they kind of have this
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vision for
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using real-time virtual spaces like a
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bar where you’ll have live conversations
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they’ve talked about a place called
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single town where users will interact in
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real time or they can connect privately
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and go and talk uh private and so
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i guess it’s like
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well you find online dating a bit you
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know a little bit of a remove now well
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maybe this is a more immersive version
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where you get to
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go on a date with the actual person in
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the metaverse you can actually sit
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across from them virtually maybe their
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avatar has a way of
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linking to your verify you know it has
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to be verifiable so maybe your avatar
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has to look like you or something but
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you know you can actually get a better
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sense of dating them
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without leaving your living room do you
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do you sort of feel like
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in some sense
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we haven’t come that far from
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like aol
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instant chat
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from back in the day
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like this
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this i you know when
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was it what was aol chat called it was
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just just aol chat aol chat it was like
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one of the og ones that i just remember
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using and thinking this is unbelievable
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i’m talking to someone in real time
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somewhere else in the world and it still
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had this incredible novelty
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about it and
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and somewhere along the way i don’t know
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it feels like we sort of departed from
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that a little bit in the sense that
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it it’s become commenting on posts
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commenting on videos but i just remember
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that real-time chat
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was something that had this appeal
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at the beginning of what most of us
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experienced as the internet
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the metaverse of dating
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is
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is this environment that puts an actual
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avatar to that
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and a physical space i suppose or a
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a metaphysical space
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that we can
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exist in and talk to someone i suppose
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i’m fascinated to think about what
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what does this do what does this allow
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people to do that they might not do
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in real life you know like what does it
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give people that they don’t get in real
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life what do you think steve you could
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just see it as a convenience thing where
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you can do the things you would do in
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real life much faster together you could
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go to an a live concert together in the
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metaverse you could go to the shops you
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could hang at a bar and people might
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just be like a bloody hey having to get
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into the car dress up on the date and go
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to the bar now i can find out if we have
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chemistry in the virtual bar and
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but i’ll move on are we saying that your
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face your actual face that you take a
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picture and it sort of wraps your face
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around this avatar’s head or are we
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saying that you choose
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a face
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for your avatar well this is the
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interesting part isn’t it i think
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if if it if it is just the real you then
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it is an extension of the the online app
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dating experience the virtual you then
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just adds all these possible yeah but is
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it what is it gonna actually
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get people’s accurate are people gonna
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lie about their body shapes are you
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gonna get is there gonna be an unnatural
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number of six foot two men in there
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that’s the tricky bit where you go they
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can’t they can’t is it are we gonna have
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to actually take pictures and verify the
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the
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body shapes and the the ratios that we
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put on there so that who what we
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actually look like is what we look like
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we might write we might have to do body
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scan or something for it um
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if it’s the avatar version
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like it adds this weird possibility
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right which i’m sure will definitely
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happen where some people will have an
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entirely virtual relationship and never
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meet
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and they will only date in the metaverse
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and meet up
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could be someone across the world right
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and you just put on your headset and go
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on these dates it’s a little limited on
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the old physical side unless you you
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know once they start involving haptic
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suits
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right and and now you can get it on
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via the haptic suits that’s game over
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mate right i mean you’ve looked into
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haptic suits more than i have uh it
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seems but
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that’s beyond my pay grade well no
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no they’ve steve i’ll have you know and
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i’m not before you make your little joke
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i haven’t been to one of them
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but i’ve walked past those places in
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tokyo where
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you
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this vr pawn
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you can go into a place and there’s vr
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porn but you’re actually wearing a
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haptic suit
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as you’re watching vr porn
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that’s you said you were going to hike
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mount fuji that day
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is what some people like to call it
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um no yeah hiking mount fuji does sound
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like a euphemism from the from the
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beginning
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i
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it i i find this pretty fascinating
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because the
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if you can suddenly just be what you
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think is a better looking you or a
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different person altogether and exist in
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their this world where you could
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potentially
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be better looking build up social
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capital that you don’t have in the real
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world and
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and
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essentially be a rock star in the
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metaverse that you don’t feel like you
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are in your real life
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that
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then gets a little scary doesn’t it
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there may just be all the same status
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games anyway if there’s like because
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they’re talking about these things well
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there’s these things are now tinder
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coins but they talk about extending
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those and then it’s just like who buys
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more flashy stuff in the metaverse and
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has the flashy the flashy car or the
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flashy thing they show off or let me
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show what i can afford uh for my avatar
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right right yeah there’ll be some the
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equivalent of a blue tick
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next to your head on them in the
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metaverse that shows that you’re someone
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of status or who has a lot of followers
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in the metaverse yeah it it’s it’s very
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interesting yeah it could i that’s one
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of my i’m not pessimistic the way some
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people are on
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like the future of dating i think there
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are problems and concerns i have but i
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you know there’s things that might be
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better right we might just get more and
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better at matching people or
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online dating just does allow you to
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meet people you wouldn’t have otherwise
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found in your city and there’s there’s
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certain matching potential
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in
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online dating that doesn’t exist
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normally but
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i think if you end up with like even
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more strata stuff where like there’s
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closed off influence a corner of dating
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and everything just gets more even more
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stratified doesn’t it and there’s
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there’s this kind of
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weird
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uh
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weird dystopian like stratified society
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so yeah i
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i don’t know i’m not i think we have to
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be careful of status quo bias here where
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people are just scared of everything new
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um
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but it’ll probably be like like online
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dating it’ll probably be a mixed old bag
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there is something interesting the most
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of everything that’s been mentioned the
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most practical application
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i can i i’ve seen from or i can imagine
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from this is that idea of being able to
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go on a date with someone who’s not in
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your immediate area
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you know i don’t think that it would be
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a shame if the metaverse stopped you
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going
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to
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a movie
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with someone who you could easily go to
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a movie with in your actual town that
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would be a sorry state of affairs but if
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it can get you on an actual date with
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someone who is a little further out or
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can’t be in the same place as you right
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now that’s sort of interesting a lot of
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potential for long distance
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relationships if nothing else one thing
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i will say matt is it could make dates a
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lot cheaper
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that’s a very good point a lot of time a
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lot of money on dates if you go on a lot
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of them
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and that is a big complaint of a lot of
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men so maybe this is the savior we all
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needed
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i think you’re just talking about
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yourself here steve
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i think you’re projecting
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i do spend money i do spend money on
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dates for the record i’m not going to
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have it said that i don’t right wow
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you’re a real chivalrous man thank you
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matt
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what do you think of the metaverse out
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there leave us a send us an email let us
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know what you have is there some
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big pro or big con about this that we
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haven’t considered email podcast
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matthewhussey.com let us know your
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thoughts on the dating metaverse god
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help us
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