Good Men Need To Stop Talking To Women Like THIS

Men tend to think more logically than women.

When we speak, it’s generally to exchange information or move towards a goal.

Women are capable of that too, of course. But they prefer conversations that move them emotionally. That’s often more important to them than it being useful or making logical sense. This is why feminine women love gossip, while masculine men see it as a waste of time.

Men who don’t understand this often have problems attracting women. They try to have serious and logical conversations that make sense given the context of a date.

This might create a nice time, but it doesn’t give women the emotional ups and downs they need to be excited by a man.

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Stop Being So Logical

Wealthy men often fall into this trap, especially those with technical and logical jobs.

Indeed, computer programmers, software engineers and data scientists are among the professions most likely to invest in dating coaching.

These guys often think that telling a woman about their success is enough to win them over. But this rarely works unless there’s some emotion behind the story.

Emotion is what fuels attraction for most women. And that’s the one thing these wealthy dudes can’t provide for them.

The guide above lists seven simple ways to make an emotional impact in your conversations with women. But I’ll give some practical examples here.

The key is to create emotional spikes with your words, both positive and negative. This should be your priority above making logical sense.

So, if your date asks if you have any siblings, you could say:

“Yes, but don’t worry. I’m the most handsome…” (positive spike)

“I have one sister, but I think she would hate you…” (negative spike)

If she asks about your job…

“I’m a data scientist, but my real passion is…” (positive spike)

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“I’m a data scientist, but I also have an OnlyFans.” (negative spike)

The idea is to say something that might delight or shock her, rather than leading the conversation down a boring and predictable path. These are just examples and you should use your own sense of humor.

My examples would be said in a playful manner and followed up with “just kidding”. Then, you can give a normal answer afterwards.

If you just give playful answers, she’ll have a great time but will struggle to take you seriously. With that said, this ‘dancing monkey’ strategy is still better than remaining boring and logical throughout a conversation.

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Stop Being Afraid To Change The Topic

Women won’t always serve up seductive topics for you on a first date. The sibling and job questions are two examples of conversations unlikely to build sexual tension.

Luckily, as we’ve mentioned, women don’t care if conversations take a linear path. As long as they’re having fun, they’ll go with the flow. If you’ve ever heard a woman gossiping on the phone with her best friend, you’ll know it’s true.

So, you shouldn’t be afraid to change the topic.

If a conversation isn’t about you, her or both of you, it’s not building your connection. This is a perfect time to switch the subject.

Also, if you feel a conversation becoming too logical and platonic, it’s time to throw in an emotional spike.

You don’t need to reason to bring up a certain topic. Honestly. Try bringing up something out of the blue and watch how women will let it happen.

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Stop Giving Away The Ending

A predictable seduction is a boring one. And one that’ll normally end unfinished.

Women generally want their romances to be highly unpredictable. What will you do next? What will you say next? It’s better if she doesn’t have you found out.

A big part of maintaining this mystery is not completely giving away how much you like her. You want her to be wondering whether she’ll have sex tonight, not certain that she could.

Keep this mystery intact by delivering a balance of positive and negative spikes throughout your interaction.

Then, when you invite her back to your place, create an innocent excuse for her to join you.

You might both understand that sex could happen, but it’s more exciting for her if there’s that element of doubt.

Just like with any blockbuster movie, the happy ending will hit hardest when it’s a pleasant surprise.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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