Loss creates a hole; most men spend their lives trying to fill it with something that looks like strength.
About Christopher Wiley-Smith
A Sense of Injured Merit
The mind building a case against the world is doing something sophisticated, rationalizing as it goes, selecting evidence, suppressing contradictions, practicing the argument until it sounds like truth.
The mind building a case against the world is doing something sophisticated, rationalizing as it goes, selecting evidence, suppressing contradictions, practicing the argument until it sounds like truth.
Loving Someone You Cannot Save
It looks like learning to live with uncertainty, with grief, with the knowledge that you did your best.
It looks like learning to live with uncertainty, with grief, with the knowledge that you did your best.
Why Strength Failed Us and What Might Replace It
When someone says they're struggling, resist the urge to fix it immediately. Just listen. Just be present.
When someone says they’re struggling, resist the urge to fix it immediately. Just listen. Just be present.
When Stability Feels Like Danger
Understanding the psychological process that traps emotionally neglected men in cycles of dysfunction.
Understanding the psychological process that traps emotionally neglected men in cycles of dysfunction.
Learning Manhood From a Man Who Never Learned It Himself
When your primary male role model is volatile and perpetually aggrieved, you inherit a distorted blueprint for masculinity that shapes every assumption about strength and worth.
When your primary male role model is volatile and perpetually aggrieved, you inherit a distorted blueprint for masculinity that shapes every assumption about strength and worth.
The Work of Grief
I couldn’t think about caring for myself. A part of me felt missing, and without that part, everything else dulled.
I couldn’t think about caring for myself. A part of me felt missing, and without that part, everything else dulled.