I had been heading towards 50/50 parenting or bust. I had made my case for how much care I had provided in the past, and how much care I was willing to provide as a single dad.
Moving On After Divorce: Getting Angry and Reaching Back For Forgiveness
How can I still be bitter about her decision to exit our marriage? Well, it’s easy when you see the impact it has had on our kids and their ideas of stability and family.
Burn the Maps! You Think You Know About Dating After Divorce
That’s what I’m looking for—the fire. To feel the burn and intoxication again. But for the fire to come and burn my maps, there needs to be a spark. And the journey ahead may be longer than I want.
Agua y besos: How Do We Gain So Much Energy from Love?
Water and kisses are enough in the early stages of bliss. But in the long haul you’ll need to find sustenance and shelter from the storms that are always on the horizon.
Dating Again After Divorce: What’s the Worst That Could Happen?
You simply cannot know what’s going to happen in the next moment. You can only know the present. The touch, smell, sound of your partner.
Our Sexual Brain and the Lies It Tells Us
I identified the Sexual Sirens that are all around me, and saw for the first time how different they were to me, depending on my relationship status.
Learning About “I Need You” vs. “I Want You”
I don’t think we need to be together. I want to be together. We are pretty good at being alone. —- We’ve all got needs. And when we were younger, and wanting children, we had needs that involved another person. And for many of us, that meant getting married so we could procreate and live…
Sex in the Marriage to Sexless Divorce: Still Trying to Understand
I was confident that my joy and hard work would re-warm her heart, and we would see bright-days again. I was wrong.
Breaking Up and Getting Over It: Someday We’ll Know
“I should have been the one working late, not her. If I had been a better provider, she wouldn’t have to work so hard.”
What I Need To Tell You: Take Heart After Divorce, It Gets Better.
I’m happy. My posts/poems about desire are really about hoping and striving towards “what’s next.” And most of the anger, though it flairs sometimes with the inane actions of my ex-y, are buried in the past three years.
Whimsical Sex and Other Unexplainable Marital Ecstasies
Maybe I should’ve made sexual connection more of an issue in couples therapy, rather than letting most of our discussions and negotiations focus on some crisis that always seemed to be at the top of her list.
You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling
We were happy in our little dream and we were working hard to keep it warm and fun. And of course we had the baby boy. The amazing baby boy.
The Divorce Whisperer
I was confident that my joy and hard work would re-warm her heart, and we would see bright-days again. I was wrong.
Digging Into Anger: Of Course You’re Not Happy With Me, We’re Divorced
When I accessed my anger that night, it was like a switch had been thrown on inside and the power to my healthy system was restored.
A Few Small Repairs: The Broken-Dance In Marriage
If something is broken, or a lightbulb is out, just fix it. Waiting on repairs as a measure of commitment or caring is a double-edged sword.
Re-finding My Manhood After Divorce
And you try and soften the loss with titty bars and drinking and pornography. But none of it satisfies the hunger nor relieves the pain.