As a gentleman, do you think this quote is accurate? What are your initial thoughts?
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- Do you think the ability to put your self in someone else’s shoes is a trait of a gentleman?
- How does empathy play into this ability?
- Is there a difference between the way men and women do this?
Tell us your thoughts in the comments section.
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Another example is people who work for the government. Many people started in government as rank and file people; however, once they become managers, they immediately forgot what was it like being a rank and file member and only care about the salaries and perks that goes with being a manager/department head and do everything they can to violate workers’ rights and union contracts.
Not a gentlemanly trait, but a human trait. We gentlemen are just the only one’s left that still do so.
I agree that it is (or at least should be) a human trait. If you mean gentlemen vs. men are the only ones that still do so, I agree. If you mean only gentlemen are the only ones who do so versus women, you know I disagree.
Actors and actresses have to put themselves in the characters they play on stage, TV or in the films; otherwise, they couldn’t be great actors and actresses and at the very least get steady work and quit acting and find some other line of work. Look at Jeremy Brett and David Suchet who play Sherlock Holmes and Hercule Poirot. One reason why the fictional detective Sherlock Holmes is a great one is because he puts himself in the shoes of the person he is hunting down to gauge the person’s intelligence and tries to figure what he would do in… Read more »
Yes G, you are right on target with that comment.
I don’t think many people do put themselves in some else shoes. For example, many wealthy people think that a minimum wage too high of a wage but at the same time, many wealthy people think that their salaries and bonuses are too low especially when they compare themselves to other wealthy people. If they made an attempt to tried to live off minimum wage, then they would then know how their workers have to struggle to make ends meet.
Excellent point, G. I honestly believe that unless you’ve walked in someone’s shoes it’s truly hard to understand what they are going through. It reminds me of a blog post I wrote a while back. Here’s an excerpt: The truth is, wounded people recognize wounded people. Who better to help you out of a situation than someone who’s been in the same place? As much as you think you understand where someone is coming from, you simply don’t — unless you’ve been there. And even then, every person’s situation is unique, so it’s still hard to know exactly what someone… Read more »