Being in love is a beautiful feeling. If it is crowned by marriage and you live happily ever after, it is a real bliss. Unfortunately, not all marriages last till death does a couple apart. But if the time for the divorce has come, how do you make it a less stressful experience?
Emotional phases before the divorce
Once you realize that the separation is the only solution for a bad marriage, you have already gone through usual phases that come before the divorce. They last for a year or two, and if you think back you will realize that you have been going through the following stages:
- Denial phase in which you could not believe that the end of a marriage is happening to you, you were angry and felt guilty for what is happening to you and your spouse
- Shock and anger usually go together, and in this stage, people start blaming their spouse for the problems and failures, and there are too many emotions that are on the contrary to each other and which are hard to cope with
- Bargaining phase is the one in which you accept to change anything and do whatever just to save your marriage. This phase usually lasts longer for the spouse that is left than for the one that has initiated the divorce
- Depression is a common phase, but the sooner you have realized that your marriage is over, the shorter period of the depression is.
The process of the divorce will probably start somewhere in-between second and third phase, and it is a challenging period. You have to live with mixed emotions, meeting your spouse at the court, deal with legal issues, and explain it all to your children if you have them. This is the moment where you must hire the best divorce lawyer, who will be your advisor, listener, friend, and much more. When your marriage is at stake, you want to have the right person next to you at the court.
A good divorce lawyer will know all about the divorce and help you not only with legal issues. He will give you pieces of advice regarding paternity, child custody, and support, alimony obligations. Additionally, he will also help you if you have a military marriage which has their specificities, or if you have to divide your property.
Once you get yourself an excellent divorce lawyer, you will be able to count on him, and his advice and your divorce will be much more comfortable than you could imagine it to be.
What comes after?
Eventually, you will enter the acceptance phase, in which you will make peace with your emotions, decisions, and future. Every once in a while you might feel sad regarding past divorce. But, this is the stage you will like. You might even laugh to all the feelings and negative things you felt and experienced before and during the divorce. Finally, you will be able to see a bright future ahead, waiting for you!
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