When you are in a long-distance relationship, you may go for an extended period without seeing your significant other. A romantic relationship is one in which you anticipate experiencing physical intimacy and an intimate connection with the person you have chosen to be with. However, when you spend most of your time alone in a long-distance relationship, it can be perplexing to feel alone while still in a relationship with someone. It is possible to reach a moment where you begin to drift apart, or your feelings start to wane, at which time you may lose interest in your long-distance partnership. If you are not cheerful and content in your present long-distance relationship, it is time to make a shift in your life.
1.) Selfcare
Just because you cannot have regular date nights with your spouse does not rule out the possibility of romancing yourself instead. Treat yourself to excellent dinners, a stroll in your favorite park, or a bath in the glow of the candlelight. Consider it an act of self-care! It’s vital to love and treat yourself to love and nurture your significant other. While you are falling further in love with your lover, keep in mind that you are also becoming deeper in love with yourself.
2.) Have realistic expectations
Being optimistic when in a long-distance relationship is beneficial, but being realistic is also helpful when in a long-distance relationship. While you might want your spouse to text you throughout the day, daily while you’re both at work, this is neither feasible nor healthy. Since you and your spouse have different lives in various places, you will not always be accessible to video chat simultaneously, especially when different time zones come into play. Another critical part of the relationship that should get discussed realistically is the “ultimate objective” of the connection. Do you want to be in a long-distance relationship for the rest of your life? Most likely not. It means you’ll have to talk about what you want your future to look like together and whether or not it’s realistic to attain your goal of living in the same place. If you and your partner do not share the same dreams and hopes for the future, it may be necessary to review your relationship.
3.) Cultivate other relationships
One issue that might frequently happen in “normal” relationships is that one person spends so much time with their spouse that they neglect their ties with their friends and family. Fortunately, when you’re in a long-distance relationship, you have more time on your hands to devote to cultivating good relationships with your significant other and children. Plan pleasant activities to do in advance, such as movie nights, to have something to look forward to that is not related to your romantic connection.
4.) Don’t bottle up your feelings.
Long-distance relationships may be an emotional rollercoaster ride. There are a lot of highs and a lot of lows. Relationships of any sort may elicit a wide range of emotional responses. Express yourself completely, whether in a diary or relative or through a therapist. Keeping your emotions bottled up will make you more nervous, and when you reach your breaking point, you will undoubtedly burst. Having stated that, don’t keep your sentiments hidden from your companion. Inform them if there is something that is upsetting you. Communicate with one another and figure things out. You don’t want to wait until you’ve reached your breaking point before expressing your dissatisfaction.
5.) Have hobbies
To look on the bright side, being with someone in a long-term relationship provides you with more alone time to do the things you enjoy doing without compromising with your spouse. Consider the time when you were single. What were some of your favorite pastimes to do alone or with friends? Maybe it’s time to get back into painting or yoga, or perhaps it’s time to learn about a completely new activity that you’ve been curious about for a long time. Something other than your relationship that you are passionate about is a terrific way to spend time in a way that helps you grow confidence, as well as feel respected and successful.
6.) Have a healthy lifestyle
The effects of depression might include a lack of appetite, meal skipping, and an overpowering craving for sweet foods, resulting in a deficiency in essential vitamins and minerals. In addition, the use of processed foods was associated with a greater likelihood of suffering from depression. Consider turning dinner into a dating night! Use video conferencing or Skype to communicate with your spouse and try “cooking together” by using the same healthy recipe and putting it through its paces together. Go to the gym as well. Gyms are fantastic because they provide a variety of possibilities, all under one roof. You may engage in aerobic exercise, lift weights, or even enroll in various classes to help you get in shape. There are also a lot of other individuals working hard in your immediate vicinity, which may be a fantastic motivating factor. If you find going to the gym intimidating, you’re in luck. There are a plethora of incredible fitness videos available online.
7.) Have a routine
Because all you can think about is being with your lover when you’re unhappy and missing them, it might seem like one day slips into the next when you’re feeling down. Concentrating on this negative stream of thinking can drain your energy and make you feel lifeless. Time has stopped, and the rut you’ve found yourself in has kept you isolated and uninterested in your daily activities. Depression can destabilize your life’s framework. You can’t get out of a rut if you don’t have a plan. It is where having a schedule in place is essential. The ability to focus on the work at hand is enhanced by developing and adhering to a timetable. While doing this, your mind is engaged and unpleasant ideas are kept at bay. Making time for yourself in the morning is a terrific approach to ensure that you take care of yourself before your day gets out of hand.
8.) Make plans with your partner.
Make a list of all the exciting activities you and your partner can do together the next time you intend to see each other and talk about the specifics. Organize a list of activities that you would want to do together, such as enjoyable locations you would like to visit when you get together or objectives that you would like to attain as a pair.
9.) Do things together
You do not have to be together to participate in an activity that you find interesting. Plan a movie date and watch the same movie simultaneously through a video call, play online games, talk about the latest news and gossip, and engage in stimulating discussion simultaneously. Play a game on the internet with your friends. At the same time, you may watch a documentary on YouTube. Using Skype, you may sing to one other as one plays the guitar. “Go for a stroll together” outside while video chatting with one another on the phone. Go online shopping with your partner and purchase gifts for one another.
10.) Talk about your struggles.
It appears to be straightforward. Open your mouth and let everything pour out. However, talking about depression is complex. We are quite concerned with what other people think of us, and no one wants to appear weak, which might keep us from opening up when we truly need to do so. You may believe that others will be too concerned or that they will consider your response to be excessive. However, this stream of thinking must get disrupted immediately!
Depression is not something to be taken lightly, and the support of people around us is critical in the rehabilitation process. Remember that you are not alone, and there is no shortage of individuals willing to provide a hand.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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