There’s been a concept going around social media and online about high-value, or high-class women.
Basically, women who have goals, are ambitious and are looking to add concrete partners to their already concrete lives, not relationships that just add chaos and headaches.
So what makes a man high value? Here are twenty signs:
- He treats women in his life with kindness, compassion and respect
2. He has goals and ambitions -he’s not wasting each day watching porn, gaming, scrolling socials or watching sports.
3. He’s educating himself without credits/being related to employment prospects.
He’s always expanding his knowledge of psychology, cooking, fitness, cultures, politics, art, history and everything in between. In the age of information, there’s no excuse to spend spare time learning about things through YouTube, audiobooks, podcasts, blogs, etc.
4. He doesn’t poo-poo spirituality or esoteric concepts -in fact, you might learn he’s a closeted wizard or mage himself,utterly at home in the alternative 5D universe.
5. He takes care of his physique through exercise and a decent diet (although he doesn’t get depressed if he doesn’t do his regular five mile run for whatever reason or drink that third spirulina and chia smoothie of the day).
6. He’s entrepreneurial. He’s got a side gig or hobby that could be lucrative. Furniture design/making. Photography. Motivational personality. Mechanic abilities. Isn’t afraid of a little dirt and loves to garden. Painting.
7. He writes – a lot. It doesn’t just mean emails and social posts. It includes his own blogs, newsletters, his journal, novels, or even how-to books. Jordan B. Peterson and I agree that knowing how to write well can make you seem a very smart person.
8. He’s eco-conscious. He recycles, he composts, he bikes, he carpools, he takes the bus, he tries to buy local, he chooses to buy green products, he air dries things .He tries his best to cut his carbon footprint in half. He tries to live as green as possible at a time, and in a society that, because of various factors, really can’t minimise this.
9. He’s knowledgeable about money and finances. He spends wisely and knows how to save relatively well. He knows how to invest, to buy in bulk when possible, etc.
10. He’s genuinely leaning into feminism (and the voices of women) by listening to the latest audiobook by a woman,
listening to podcasts hosted by women
reading a book written by a woman
reading a blog by a woman
listening to music composed and sung by women
^ Men can only be allies if they know what women go through. Listening to what women go through as individuals is the first step. Listening to your buddies and what they say in the general sense or what the mainstream media says isn’t the same as actually listening to what individual women go through.
11. They’re creative and have a spontaneous streak. They’re up to painting, making music, sculpting, writing fiction, dancing,singing, joking, acting. They know that it’s no fun being around someone who’s a;ways serious and uptight is just boring.
12. They know how to express themselves well. They’re no longer the tight upper lip sort, but the ones who are emotionally aware and intelligent.
13. They’ve got a small, close knit circle of friends who are good at checking his reality and making sure they filter his life of stuff that’s not good for him.
14. They appreciate and honour the needs of the neurodivergent (ie. autistic, dyslexic, ADHD, HSP, etc) friend, coworker, relative, in their lives.
15. He likes animals. He donates food or tips to the local shelter, adopts a rescue, takes part in fundraiser walks/runs/.festivals/drives, and/or donates to wildlife organisations or animal rescue organisations.
16. Can speak at least one other foreign language other than his own.
17. He’s not overreliant on his parents for anything – he’s got a relatively healthy, interdependent relationship with them. He’s tried therapy, he’s done self work/shadow work, he’s considered retreats, he’s up to self improvement.
18. He’s aware enough of what works for his benefit and what doesn’t. He doesn’t let it get to him but rather knows that life is a series of cycles and patterns. You just gotta learn how to change how you do things, if you don’t want to repeat them. He’s got good boundaries.
19. He tries to be a non-judgemental person. He knows, he understands, that no matter your social ranking, education level, bank balance, gender, sexual orientation, intellectual status, marital status, mental health status, or race – you are human and humans have flaws. To be human is to be flawed and to be flawed is human!
20. He knows balance. He knows himself to know what’s valuable to his health, his mental health, finances, social life and overall happiness. He knows how to pace his life and isn’t rushing through, missing important milestones. He knows that overcompensating for things just brings chaos and later issues that will be negative and difficult to undo.
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