It’s a myth that marriage is the pinnacle of happiness and success.
Marriage is not a finish line; it’s a journey, and there will be difficulties along the way. Sex, money, and emotional needs are usually the common problems faced by marriages. However, by knowing about the typical blunders in advance, a new husband can prevent a lifeless and unhappy marriage.
In this blog article, we’ll examine four frequent but avoidable blunders that many guys make soon after they tie the knot.
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Letting The Magic Fade
After the joyous honeymoon phase, it’s all too easy for a husband to overlook the things that his wife found appealing during their days of courtship and exclusivity.
When the marriage becomes less interesting, it may be difficult for a man to keep up his activities, such as taking his partner on dates. This often happens unconsciously, but his lack of interest signals to his wife he no longer finds her attractive. As a result, her need for bonding and intimacy go unmet.
Then tension sets into the marriage: the wife becomes distant and aloof, furthering the divide or intentionally starts a verbal quarrel to gain her husband’s attention.
Overcoming This Challenge: The answer is straightforward: make time for your wife and do activities you know she enjoys. Do not simply relax into a comfortable space. Make the conscious effort to do the things that you used to do when you were courting your woman.
Instead of slipping into a casual and mundane routine, maintain the intense feelings of infatuation, attraction and passion.
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Respecting Individual Boundaries
While it’s true that marriage means living as one, many couples misunderstand that this doesn’t mean they need to lose their individual identity.
For the marriage to thrive, couples need each other’s support and encouragement to be one another’s best selves. But this doesn’t mean they need to give up who they are entirely. With that said, many couples make the mistake of letting their boundaries blur when getting married and moving into together.
Either the wife or husband will get frustrated when their identity and personal time are threatened, leading to further complications in the marriage.
Overcoming This Challenge: Understand when the best times for this personal time are to prevent resentment from creeping into your marriage. Keep it healthy. As a husband, give your wife the space she needs when she needs it.
Remember, marriage means the two of you have come together and are becoming something greater than what each could ever hope to be alone.
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Maintaining An Emotional Connection
It’s critical that you continue to communicate with your wife throughout the marriage.
When married couples stop talking, they lose sight of how important their feelings are and don’t know how to handle major situations when they arise. The reason men and women need to communicate with each other is because we all have feelings, desires, and goals. It’s not always about what we want; it’s also about how our spouse feels too.
If you ignore their feelings, they will feel frustrated and lose respect for you.
Overcoming This Challenge: By maintaining an open line of communication and always checking in with your wife, you can overcome challenges together and strengthen your marriage.
Fulfilling Her Sexual Needs
Sex is an important part of marriage that shouldn’t be ignored.
It’s not only about satisfying your own physical desires in the marriage. It’s also about ensuring your spouse is sexually content in the bedroom. If you don’t fulfill her needs and wants, she feel unattractive in your eyes.
And if this continues for a prolonged time, your wife just might seek satisfaction she needs elsewhere.
Overcoming This Challenge: The easiest approach to address this issue is to be open and honest with each other about what you want sexually and ensure that both of your needs are met.
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As a new husband, I’ve had to remind myself of these common mistakes. Because I want my marriage to be a happy one and last a lifetime. I also don’t want my wife to regret the decision in marrying me.
Lastly, I want to leave you with one last strategy husbands can use to revive their marriage — regardless if you’re newlywed or married for years.
Twice a day, take six seconds to kiss your wife passionately. Do it unexpectedly when your wife doesn’t suspect it. Kiss her like it might be the very last kiss.
Then watch how your marriage deepens and grows with more intimate moments.
This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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