John was a young graduate working in a 9 to 5 job. He had a colleague named Inez who worked at the same office as him. She was his closest friend in the office. Both of them were hard-working employees. They often got bored following the usual routine in their office. For recreation, they attend parties and get-togethers with their friends. They feel like these events give them a break from their boring office lives. They always look forward to these events.

One day, Inez gave him some exciting news. She got two tickets to one of the most expensive parties in the city. She said that she will give one of those tickets to John since he was her closest friend. John thanked her for giving him such an opportunity and they both went to the party together that night.

The party was full of drinking and dancing. Sitting down at the bar chair, John noticed Inez dancing along with a pretty girl. He went towards them and asked Inez who her friend was.

“I am Eunice,” said the pretty girl. Inez later introduced John and Eunice to each other. All three of them got along well during that night. The night was fun.

John felt happy to meet Eunice. He was impressed by her charisma. He wanted to be good friends with her. He wished she would want the same from him.

To his delight, Eunice did show interest in him. After the party ended, Eunice asked for his number and texted him when he got home. He was thrilled to know that such a pretty girl like Eunice would want to talk to him and be his friend.

As the days went by, the conversations between John and Eunice became longer. They became closer to each other. Both of them had similar interests. Both of them had similar personalities. John felt like Eunice was perfect. He could talk with her for hours and never feel bored. He felt like she was everything he could ever ask for. He was thankful to Inez for meeting Eunice.

However, he never told Inez that he fancies Eunice. After Inez recently went through her breakup, she said she didn’t want to talk about love. John being an understanding guy, didn’t tell her that he was falling in love.

One day Eunice told him that she broke up with her partner. John consoled her. He didn’t know whether to feel happy or sad. He was sad that she was unhappy. At the same time, he was feeling a bit happy that she is single now.

After days of talking and spending time together, John finally told Eunice that he likes her and asked her to be his girlfriend. She said yes. He was very happy that day. He felt ecstatic. He told Inez about it. Inez said that this news made her happy after a long time. She said that she feels happy whenever her best friend feels happy.

Throughout all the time John spent with Eunice, he was so blinded by love that he didn’t notice some major red flags shown by Eunice that showed that she was not the right person for him.

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She forgot important events

Apart from always talking about her former lover, Eunice forgot many important events. She kept forgetting John’s birthday even after he told it to her many times. She forgot the date when they started their relationship. She wasn’t interested in remembering many important events in their relationship. She would just talk to him only when she was feeling lonely or bored. Sometimes John felt like she was not interested in him at all. But he told himself not to be too pessimistic and consoled himself that she had a weak memory.

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She could easily spend a whole day without talking to him

John noticed that Eunice would react indifferently when he said he was busy and didn’t get time to talk with her. She rarely said that she missed him. Sometimes John didn’t text her first and waited for her text. “She would surely text me first if she’s missing me,” he thought. But she never did. She would only text him first whenever she needed something. She would talk with him more romantically whenever she wanted to go out to a movie or a restaurant with him.

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She never noticed the changes in his mood and behavior

Sometimes John would come home in a bad mood after a hard day in the office. Eunice would talk to him in her same way without noticing the change in his mood. She would never ask him if his boss scolded him or if he did too much work.

Sometimes John would come home in a happy mood. Eunice would talk to him in her same way without noticing the change in his moods. She would never ask him if he got a promotion or if something good happened to him.

She did not try to make him happy if he was sad. She did not ask him why he’s feeling happy whenever she saw him in a cheerful mood. Most of the time, she wasn’t interested in knowing how his day went.

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She didn’t take his worries seriously

John, like most other people, had many worries and insecurities. Eunice never took them seriously. Eunice would call him a coward when he said he is scared of something. Eunice would laugh whenever he would tell her something he was insecure about. Later she would apologize whenever he told her that it was his real insecurity. However, she seemed to care less about his worries and his insecurities.

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She didn’t respect his decisions

Eunice always criticized his ideas and ideologies. Eunice questioned everything John gave an opinion about. John thought that she was always in a mood for debate. He didn’t realize that she didn’t respect his decisions at all. She would insult him whenever she was in a bad mood. She would always be unpredictable and this scared John. She would block him without telling him any reason and text him again many days later.

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Aftermath

One day, she told John that her ex-lover sent her a text and started talking with her again. John felt a bit anxious. However, he didn’t worry about it too much since Eunice told him that she loved him more than her ex. John believed that she would never leave him without any reason. He had faith in her that she was a good-hearted girl who wouldn’t hurt anyone on purpose.

Sadly for John, he was wrong. Eunice told him that she was feeling happy after her ex started talking with her again. She started talking less with him. John felt a big blow to his heart after realizing that she started talking more with her ex than with him. She started replying late to his texts.

John started getting worried about what was going on with Eunice. He wanted to talk with her a lot but didn’t want to bother her. He missed her a lot. He felt like dying because Eunice didn’t talk with him for many days.

Suddenly, one day John got a call from Eunice. He picked it up excitedly. A few seconds later he wasn’t excited anymore. After he picked up her call Eunice told him, “I don’t want to talk with you anymore. Don’t talk with me again. I’m blocking you. Come to my apartment and take back your belongings.”

John was shocked. He didn’t know how to react. It felt like he was about to go into a trauma. He felt like a ton of bricks felt above his head. He got so hurt after hearing what she said. After John asked her the reason, Eunice told him that she never loved him. She only got into a relationship with him because she felt very lonely after her ex left her. She was trying to forget her ex by being in a relationship with John. She said she always preferred her ex more than him. She also said that her ex is inside her apartment right now.

With his heart broken into a million pieces, John went to Eunice’s apartment to take back his belongings. As soon as he entered her apartment, he saw Eunice kissing her ex. John was shocked. Her ex was someone he knew all along. It was someone he knew for a long time. It was someone whom he considered his best friend.

It was Inez.

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Summing it up

The 5 signs you’re with the wrong person are as follows:

1. They forget important events
2. They could easily spend a whole day without talking to you
3. They don’t notice the changes in your mood and behavior
4. They don’t take your worries seriously
5. They don’t respect your decisions

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Takeaway

You are in control of yourself, always. If you choose not to exert that control, that’s your choice. The best advice someone can give you is to get a grip on yourself. Keep in mind that all relationships are not permanent. It’s beautiful if you find love, but don’t dissolve in it completely or you’ll have nothing left if it’s over.

Allow yourself to feel the happiness when you’re together with the person you love, but never take them for granted. Never make them your everything. Never make them the pillar that holds you up. During the good times, you will build a barn to bring in the harvest so that you have something to eat. When the bad times come, you don’t sit in the sun and pretend that nothing else can be done.

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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.

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