Look, in an ideal world, we could all just go around to people, tap them on the shoulder and ask them the pretty fair question: “Do you wanna fuck?” Then they would simply answer “yay” or “nay.”
But no… millions of years of evolution have caused us to have complicated courtship rituals. It has also been shown in a study called “Gender Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers” that women tend to be more “coy” and “indirect” when making sexual advances.
And I’m sure at least one woman here has noticed that guys are not always that receptive to their sub-communications. You may have already touched his hands several times and laughed at all his jokes. You’ve been facing him and holding prolonged eye contact and even then he still didn’t notice you’re into him.
There are also other reasons why you might need to be indirect/not overt in your sexual advances. For one thing, rejection hurts. Also, the person you’re into may not be available per se — I don’t judge.
Without further ado, for the next time you meet someone and want to tell them that you’d do them but without saying it out loud, these are 5 signs guys won’t miss.
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1. Hand on knee
Yes, I know what you’re thinking: if you put your hand a little bit higher — on his crotch — the whole thing would probably lead to sex a lot faster. But you may not know this person… or are unsure if they’re interested.
Women, in my experience, tend to do a myriad of little touchy things if they like you. For example, they will brush their hand against yours a lot while you’re walking if they want you to hold it. In a bar, they might touch your shoulder. Whatever.
These things are easy to miss. The best way to let a guy know you like him without coming on too strong is by putting your hand on his knee. There have been about 4 or 5 instances in the past when a woman was attracted to me and I was off with my head in the clouds somewhere not noticing it until she put her hand on my knee. Things got hot and steamy thereafter very quickly. No explanation or confession of love needed.
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2. Licking his nipples
The best way to let a guy know you’re into him without actually saying it is by licking his nipples.
Just kidding. The second sub-communication we’ll easily pick up on is rubbing your finger in a circular motion on some part of our bodies. It can be our chest, shoulder, arm, etc. Touching in another way won’t have the same effect. When you do it in a circular motion, it means you did it with intent — dirty, filthy, sexy intent — or at least that’s what we’ll think.
Next stop: bedroom.
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3. Taking his phone out of his hand and putting in your contact info
And not running off with it. I repeat, if you run off with his phone, that is the wrong way to get guys to chase you.
Kidding aside, simply sharing contact info with someone you just met can be interpreted as an approach to a platonic relationship. So, when you want to date a guy you just met, say “Give me your phone.” Then take it and input your details yourself— phone number, social media, etc.
This is different from just sharing your details out loud because guys like women who take charge — where are all you strong, independent women? Also, this way’s more flirty and we’ll think of you in terms of dates/sex and not as a friend/colleague.
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I remember once seeing a joke on the Internet that was titled: “How girls shoot their shot.” It could have been what the younger generation doth calleth a meme.
The girl in the joke stared at the guy for a little while before saying “Whatever… his loss,” and leaving — the joke being that women would prefer guys to just know they’re sexually interested in them without actually saying it. I found it funny, and frankly, I can relate.
Anyway, the fourth way to indirectly tell a guy you want to have sex with him, or just in general make him come onto you, is to play footsie. This game has the internationally-understood meaning that those playing it are fucking or want to fuck. It also internationally annoys those around them who notice the game of footsie. Regardless, it will get your man to notice you sexually without you having to say anything.
Is there an easier way… like just using your words instead? Yes, there is. However, as stated at the start, research on human psychology proved that women are not as keen on directly communicating their interest in a guy.
My own research as a man has also proven that sometimes I’m very dumb and miss the signs women give me… so hence this article.
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5. Accidentally dropping a large box of dildos in front of him
Again, this one is a joke — based on porn actually. The fifth way to subtly communicate sexual interest in a guy such that he’ll understand is by complimenting his face.
It’s a normal thing for guys to tell women that they have beautiful eyes or cute dimples. This doesn’t go as much the other way. I guarantee you, if you tell a guy he has nice eyes or something similar, he will see you as a potential sexual partner, and not as a friend. Whether or not you’re right for each other and it all works out is another matter, but at least you won’t be friend-zoned.
Compliments such as, “nice suit,” or “cool haircut” will sometimes fly right over our heads because it’s something that our straight guy friends could say as well.
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Sex usually starts with communication
Unless you’re paying for it, and even then. The problem is that women are not as direct in communicating their desires or approaching the opposite sex and guys are not always aware of the subtle cues we are being given. The above are 5 signs you could give out of thousands. These ones will put you on a guy’s sex radar.
About halfway through writing this article, I looked up what advice girls give each other on ways to let a guy know they are interested in him. Those ways included: smiling, making plenty of eye contact, being interested in the things he likes, and laughing at his jokes. Oh, and the ever classic: compliment his haircut. These are really great but can also result in you just becoming friends.
The 5 items on this list are ways to communicate that you want sex without saying to your boss, best friend, married neighbor “Please bang me, daddy,” or being so coy that guys don’t notice your advances.
This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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