5 Undoubtedly True Signs She’s a Keeper

When it comes to romantic relationships, not everyone is a keeper, but that’s also a good reason to start working more on ourselves.

The term a keeper, according to the dictionary, is “someone with good qualities, who you can have a long relationship with.” Depending on your ideal partner, this definition can also vary.

Judith Orloff, M.D., is the author of The Empath’s Survival Guide, also mentioned that

“Qualities of a good lover include being confident and not afraid to be vulnerable.”

With that being said, I’ve known many women who are a keeper and have successfully built healthy, long-lasting relationships with their partners.

Here are some of the common signs:

She cares deeply about your well-being.

She isn’t with you just for the money or any other social status you have.

When you’re dating a keeper, you can feel that she also cares a lot about your well-being. She respects your needs and does not make a fuss whenever you ask for some alone time.

Finding someone who can understand that part is hard nowadays. Many women want attention 24/7 but never actually ask their partner what they need from them emotionally.

She works on her own issues — rather than expecting you to fix them.

It’s common for women to feel insecure in their relationships. But if she’s a keeper, she won’t expect you to remove all those bad feelings. They know it’s on them to work on.

Sure, she might want you to be there along the way, but she also puts real work into working on her insecurities. For example, if they know they have a chronic jealous trait, rather than accusing you of cheating all the time, she’d instead take the time to ask deeper questions on what triggered the feeling.

That’s why it’s important to be with someone who’s fully aware of their flaws. Because it’s mentally exhausting to be with the one who thinks they’re perfect with no internal (or external) work needed.

She supports your goals and dreams.

I listened to a podcast from Cathy Heller Show one day where she opened up about her story supporting her husband to pursue his personal goal. Even that means he needed to quit his job as a lawyer.

I see it as something inspiring. She can claim every day that she supports your dream and the big goals you have, but if she applies it in practice, then it’s no doubt that she’s the right partner for you.

Of course, that doesn’t have to be anything extreme, but it’s also important to make sure that it’s not just all talk, and you need to be sure she can be there for you when you’re in the low point trying to make your dream come true.

She is willing to compromise during hard times.

We are all selfish in some ways, but there has to be a limit. If she doesn’t want to compromise even a little bit to save the relationship, then you shouldn’t keep her.

A long-lasting relationship can only be built by two people who’re willing to sacrifice their wants once in a while to keep the relationship going.

Think about it this way; you and your partner are two different individuals trying to stay together for as long as you can, so it’s impossible that there are no disagreements and fights along the way.

And most arguments/fights happen because both parties think their way of thinking/doing is better than the other. To solve this, any of you need to take a step back and make a compromise.

So if she has that trait already, it’s a good foundation to start with.

She doesn’t force her opinions on you.

Many women fall into the idea that they should be treated like a princess if the man is serious with them. So if you’re dating someone who has this mindset, then most things have to go according to her way.

There’s no room for disagreements — even if you have one. And you need to value her opinions more than anything, but when it comes to yours? They don’t matter that much in her eyes.

I’ve seen many real-life relationship scenarios where the woman never admits that she’s wrong and the man is always the one to blame. So pay attention to how she responds to what you want to say.

A keeper will do her best to listen and value your opinions just as much as you do to her.

The Bottom Line

Finding someone special that can tick all the boxes on the list isn’t easy, but it’s important to remember that no one’s perfect. Just because you’re dating someone who isn’t as perfect as in your head, that doesn’t mean she isn’t a keeper.

It’s about finding the middle ground and seeing what you can compromise in the relationship without losing yourself in it.

That’s what I call a healthy relationship.

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