When something shifts in your life, you may feel compelled to act quickly to resolve the issue, fill the gap, or create the necessary changes. You likely feel an internal push to hurry up, get it done, and check it off your to-do list.
This expectation of a speedy solution creates a sense of pressure that makes the transition process harder than it needs to be. By focusing on a quick resolution, you spend time evaluating your progress, feeling frustrated about each and every delay, and listening to an incessant inner dialogue about how you have done something wrong. With this approach, you end up expending a lot of energy unnecessarily, which is both exhausting and aggravating.
By allowing your transition to unfold at its natural pace, you use your energy and focus more effectively with less push and more flow. Trusting yourself and respecting your intuition, helps you discover and appreciate the natural rhythm of your transitions.
To ease your journey, bring more compassion to your transitions:
- Readiness for Changes. Rather than pushing yourself to act before you are ready, pay attention to the subtle signs within – an undercurrent of excitement, a feeling of unexpected joy, or a sense of new clarity – that tell you that you are ready to move forward. When you have energy and clarity to move to the next step of your journey, the shifts you are making will undoubtably go more smoothly, and you will feel aligned with the changes you are making.
- Speed of Change. While acknowledging your inner desire to move faster, trust that the unfolding pace of your journey will allow you to uncover valuable information about your situation, make connections you haven’t noticed before, and discover personal truths about yourself that bring you a greater sense of ease. With these new insights, your transition may take an amazing new turn that you couldn’t have imagined before.
- Internal Confusion. When you feel confused, give yourself grace for not forcing yourself to move forward when you don’t know what you want. With a caring perspective, gift yourself with the time you need to find your way. As you connect with a deeper sense of clarity about your next move, your path forward will open up naturally.
- External Delays. Sometimes, the pace of the changes you face will depend on factors beyond your control. As hard as it may be to believe, trust that these delays are not about you. They are not your fault. You did not create them. Your actions or beliefs didn’t put these delays in place. For now, continue to do what you can to prepare yourself for the future you are choosing to create. By focusing on the elements that are within your control, you can make different kinds of progress while you wait for the wheels to start turning again. Ultimately, you may discover that the delays end up being in your favor.
- Response of Others. Whether family members, friends, or co-workers are going through the same transition you are or they are holding space for you during your transition, their perspectives may not always align with your own. In the spirit of helping you, they may have opinions about how fast you are moving, actions you should take, or steps you’ve missed. While honoring their experiences, it’s important for you to stay true to what makes sense for you at this time in your life!
By approaching your own transitions with compassion for yourself, your situation, and your loved ones, you open up an opportunity to let go of the big push to change and invite in to a more natural form of change that allows you to thrive with ease.
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