Thank you for choosing me, for exceeding my expectations on marriage in ways I never knew was possible.
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To my husband on our fifth wedding anniversary,
I love you more today than I did the day I said I’d love you forever. I love you infinitely more. In fact I never knew I could love someone so much, so fiercely, so loyally, so passionately. It is a love that after nearly a decade together grows as we grow and is nurtured by our genuine affection for each other.
Five years ago today we said ‘I do’ and I knew I was marrying a good man, a caring man, a one of a kind man but I never really understood just how smart you are, how hard working, how cheeky and funny and devoted you are. I feel like as your wife I’m only now beginning to know the real you.
In the five years we have been married you’ve shown me for the first time in my life how a good husband treats his wife. As a husband you have seen so much change in me, in us. In five years it feels like we’ve lived a lifetime. I know I wouldn’t change a single part, good or bad because it’s made you and me what we are today and that’s something pretty special.
In our five years of marriage we created two amazing children together, the perfect mix of you and I.
They bring us more happiness than we ever knew was possible and being parents has bought us closer rather than divide us.
We support each other and work for not against each other.
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As parents we don’t compete for who has the toughest gig because we both know we’re out there working our hardest for our family and we understand both roles are equally challenging and rewarding. I tell you this every day and I’ll keep on telling you, I love being a parent with you! You are the worlds greatest dad, who loves and cherishes your kids, who plays with them, changes their nappies, baths them, feeds them, soothes them. As parents it feels like we are a team, stronger for having each other.
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Over our marriage you’ve seen me gain so much weight that I became double the size I was when we met and you still loved me and told me I was beautiful. Even though I tried a million ways to lose weight you never discouraged me from trying new programs or fads.
You never made me feel ugly or fat, you were always so encouraging and supportive. When I lost weight you didn’t become insecure or jealous, you just made me feel even sexier and boosted my confidence with your praise and affection.
You are the husband whose heart broke and who sobbed with me when we lost our baby, who held my hand and made sure I knew it was both our loss and that I wasn’t alone in my grief.
You are the husband who came to every appointment when we couldn’t get pregnant again and who felt the same level of joy and fear when we did. You are the husband who has never missed a single scan of either of our children, who came to antenatal appointments, who took care of me when I didn’t stop throwing up for nine months growing our daughter. You’ve looked after me after two caesarians, bathing me, changing my dressings, bringing me our babies to feed. You have seen me at my most vulnerable and you have only ever cared for me and made me feel safe.
You are the husband who when I got post natal depression and anxiety after the birth of our daughter you never made me feel silly or that I was letting the team down.
You encouraged me to get help and were my absolute strength when I felt broken.
You never made me feel like a failure when I needed medication to get me through and you celebrated with me when the medication worked and a new, stronger version of me came out. I can’t tell you enough how much that support means and how lucky I feel to be married to a man who just gets it.
You are the husband who does more than his share around the house all without complaining. You are the person who I go on all my adventures with, who I share my dreams to, who I share my life with. Oh my gosh I love our life together!
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You are the husband who is the sexiest, best friend I could ever ask for. I get excited waking up next to you, I spend all week looking forward to Wednesday’s and the weekend when we can drink coffee on our deck together. When you walk in the door at the end of the day everything feels right in the world. You are my family, my lover, my parenting partner, my whole world.
To my husband on our five year wedding anniversary, thank you for choosing me, for exceeding my expectations on marriage in ways I never knew was possible.
Thank you for showing me what love really is and what husbands and wives are supposed to be to each other.
Thank you for being part of a team that don’t (or very rarely) fight, who don’t take each other for granted, who are honest and kind to each other. Thank you for being the greatest love of my life.
I love you more today than I did five years ago on our wedding day and each day we are together I continue to love you more.
Love your wife xx
Originally posted on TheYoungMrsFlanaganBlog. Reprinted with permission.
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