6 Inventive First Date Tactics to Truly Wow a Woman

First dates are hard. You don’t need me to tell you that. They’re absolute minefields of confusion that you’re never really sure how to navigate. Well, all that’s over because today I’m going to give you some free info which, if followed, will make your dates fun, sensual, and explosive like never before.

Let’s get started.

You ready?

Here come the pain!

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1 – Know exactly where you’re taking her

If there’s something that dries women up like the Sahara, it’s planning dates with men who are like:

Oh, golly! I don’t know, where do you want to go?! We can do anything you want! Just let me know, and we’ll do it!

The thing is that while this attitude looks nice on paper, it shows a complete lack of masculine energy and purpose. For better or worse, the woman you’re about to date needs to know you’re a confident man who has his shit together and can take care of business.

She wants to feel like you can be relied on to make tough decisions when needed and protect her from the world. But if you’re too timid to decide where to take her, that’s a terrible sign.

Maybe you want her to feel included. I get it. In that case, you’d be better off planning something she’d like based on everything you already know about her and just taking her there. Or, if you really feel the need to ask, give her two options to choose from. But make no mistake, the less decisive you are about where you two are going, the greater the odds of her having an ‘emergency”, which means she has to cancel.

There’s a reason you always see this on women’s dating profiles.

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2 – Tell yourself you’re incredible for like an hour before

I’m serious about this. This tip works incredibly well for dates, job interviews, and any other situation for which you might need to summon world-class confidence. Essentially it goes like this, the thoughts you have affect your reality. If you’re thinking powerful thoughts, you’ll have powerful feelings which then lead to powerful outcomes.

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However, if you’re thinking weak thoughts, you’ll have weak feelings, which then lead to weak outcomes. You can’ expect to be riding a wave of godlike confidence while being concerned that you’re not handsome, sexy, intelligent, or funny enough. Thinking like that will just bring you down, make you insecure and second guess yourself, and have your date think you’re weird.

So for an hour before the date, I want you to do nothing but talk yourself up like you’re God’s gift to humanity. Remind yourself of every last one of your positive points and do so with unrelenting passion. Tell yourself this woman isn’t ready for the unbridled masculine energy you’ll bring and that you’ll blow her mind to the moon and back. I promise you that by the time the date rolls around you’ll be radiating a powerful aura that will be magnetic to everyone who feels it.

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3 – Here’s what it really means to have a “spark” or chemistry.

Do you know what your ultimate goal for a date is? It’s either for her to be so turned on and comfortable that she goes back to your place afterwards for wild jungle sex or goes home and pleasures herself to the fantasy of you.

I’m deadly serious about this. It’s not a joke at all. One of the biggest reasons men don’t get second dates is that women don’t feel sparks, but what the fuck is a spark? It’s an energy in the air which suggests that you two could fornicate. But how the hell does that come about? By there being an erotic vibe in the air. And how the hell is that created? By the man not being afraid to flirt, lead, and express his sexual energy, and the woman choosing to match him.

Something to remember is that half the reason you guys are even on a date is to see if you are sexually attracted so someone. If the concept of having sex wasn’t on the table, it wouldn’t be a date. It would be a platonic coffee. Platonic coffee is fine — but it’s not a date. Regardless of whether or not she’s looking for a boyfriend or a friend with benefits, both options require sexual attraction.

This means she’ll be asking herself if she could see sleeping with you, and if you suppress your sexuality (like most men do), she’ll almost certainly decide no.

You’re not there to have her logically get to know you as a person and what you do. You’re there to have such a great time that she WANTS to get to know you, two very different things.

Will you always be able to bring women home? No, of course not. And sex always requires consent. But my point is this, if sexual energy is in the air, what kind of date would it be?

How would you talk, touch, and flirt with each other? What kind of energy would your interactions have?

Then compare that to how it would be if you were just trying to get her to know you.

Exactly.

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4 – Don’t be ashamed of your sexuality or threatened by hers

As implied by the previous point, sexual energy is critical to the success of a date. Still, if you’re ashamed of yours or threatened by hers, you’re going to sabotage your chances of seeing her again. There’s nothing wrong with your desires. They’re not only perfectly normal; they’re the reason we all exist and the driving force behind innovation.

Trust me, Elon Musk wouldn’t be building electric cars and flying into space if it had no chance of making him more attractive to women, so own your desires with pride.

Also, you need to realise and be comfortable with the fact that the woman you’re dating is a sexual being. If sex comes up, embrace it. If you end up in an erotically charged conversation in which she talks about the best sex she ever had, don’t get mortally offended by the notion that she had orgasms before she ever met you. That’s small dick energy which will only push her away.

But as well as that, don’t get tied to sex either. If the mood is right to discuss sex, great, but when the mood changes that’s also great. It always need to be mutual.

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5 – Take her to multiple venues

This is a dark art of seduction, but it ranks an 11 on the Richter scale of effectiveness and essentially goes like this. When you and a stranger meet at a bar, you’re two strangers who’ve met at a bar. However, assuming you enjoy each other’s company, when you decide to go to another bar, you turn up to this new location as a unit. You’re now friends. You’re together. If you go to another bar and another bar after that, you two will keep getting closer and closer and things just might get both frisky and intimate.

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6 – Have fun

Seriously, this is key and integral to the success of your entire operation. See your date not as a tense job interview but as a thrilling romantic encounter. The goal isn’t just for her to have an exciting time. It’s for you to do so too. Hell, the best way for her to enjoy herself is to be with a man who loves the moment and has an infectious energy that makes her want to let loose, so you owe it to both of you to let your hair down.

Life’s hard, life’s short, and you know what? You might never see this human being again, so enjoy the night and see what happens. Nobody ever had a fun date by being consumed with worry.

And there you have it. 6 unconventional first date tips to blow a woman’s mind. Take care, meu amigo. Take care.

Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss.

Excelsior.

Ciaran

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