All of us have heard that line a thousand times. Like a soft blanket, love protects us from the chill of the outside world.
It’s that ineffable sensation that makes us smile broadly and sing along to the most inane tunes on the radio.
But does love need just red flowers, candlelight, and constant texting? Let’s dispel some romantic misconceptions that would make Cupid shake his head.
1. Love is All You Need: The Beatles Fallacy
No one can forget the first time they heard “All you need is Love” and started humming along.
Though a beautiful message and tune, true love require more than just two people to feel whole. My dear readers, love is a wonderful beginning, but it is by no means the final destination.
Imagine having the world’s most expensive automobile, but no petrol to put in the tank. It’s aesthetically pleasing, but it won’t get you anywhere!
2. Love at First Sight: The Lightning Strike Delusion
We’ve all read fairy tales when the prince and princess meet across a crowded room and instantly fall in love.
Love develops. But love, cherished companions, isn’t something that just happens. It’s more akin to a soup that, as it simmers, develops a deeper flavor over time.
For real love to exist, you have to get to know someone on a deep level and still choose to love them, stupid jokes and all.
3. Love is a Smooth Sailing Ship: The Fairytale Misunderstanding
We were messed up by fairy tales. They always concluded their tales with, “and they lived happily ever after,” never once mentioning a fight about who forgot to purchase milk or whose socks were still on the floor.
Sometimes love is like a stormy ocean with rising and falling waves. However, working through challenges like this together is what makes a relationship stronger.
4. Jealousy is a Sign of Love: The Green-Eyed Monster Fallacy
Do you still think of Othello, the poor, foolish Moor? His sad story should serve as a reminder that envy has nothing to do with real love.
Love is about trust and understanding, but jealousy may be about ownership and control. A chat is in order if you find yourself checking your partner’s phone more often than your own.
5. Love Conquers All: The Invincibility Myth
Perhaps seeing too many superhero films has contributed to this misperception. Despite its strength, love is not a miracle cure for every problem.
It’s not useful for anything, not even paying the rent. It’s unrealistic to believe that love can fix everything.
Love isn’t only about big, showy gestures; it’s also about little things like bringing out the garbage when you’re not asked to.
6. Love Equals Happiness: The Eternal Bliss Misconception
One of the results, rather than the ultimate goal, of a successful partnership is happiness.
There will be times when your spouse really gets on your nerves. You may even consider trading them in for a cup of coffee (just kidding). But keep in mind that it’s normal to have days that aren’t ideal.
Happiness isn’t a prerequisite for love; rather, it’s a byproduct of the experience.
7. Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry: The Love Story Fallacy
How you’ve led us astray, Ali McGraw. In actuality, love is about owning up to our mistakes and making amends, but that doesn’t make this passage from ‘Love Story any less mushy.
It’s about swallowing our pride and really saying “I’m sorry” when we’ve done something wrong.
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My dear friends, love is an amazing feeling that is both simple and profound. It’s a beautiful display of human emotion, but it also delivers its share of gloomy downpours.
That love has flaws is part of what makes it so lovely. Because finding true love isn’t predicated on attaining perfection. The idea is to find the best in someone who isn’t flawless.
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