7 Reasons Thick Skinned Men Are Irresistible

Someone left a comment on one of my stories the other day, calling me an incel — I disrespectfully agree. Being a passive boy by nature, I’ve cost myself a ton of romantic opportunities. I’ve always resorted to the hot and cold game, hiding my true intentions and hoping to bait someone into chasing me. Eventually, I realized, women want to be pursued, no matter how strong they come on early on.

There’s nothing more intoxicating than confidence and courage

Being direct not only shows that you aren’t afraid to fail but that the girl doesn’t intimidate you. What displays more leadership quality than a man leading and expressing his intentions right out the gate despite a risk of rejection? So many mediocre-looking guys with average jobs are magnetic to females because they unapologetically go after what they want. Whereas the thin-skinned man takes so long escalating attraction that it eventually dies off. They’re hesitant to make the first move because if she doesn’t give positive feedback, his self-confidence will implode. He even fears putting their friendship in jeopardy.

The thick-skinned man doesn’t waste his time feeling things out. He’s a go-getter who takes charge of the interaction as opposed to allowing the woman to dictate the pace. By coming on slightly aggressive, women have no choice emotionally but to surround to his power.

Every woman craves attention

We like people who like us back. While it’s hard to deny that there’s something to the hard-to-get trick, females prefer to be the prize themselves more than the hunter.

Men’s sense of self mainly comes from competence. Women, however, derive their self-worth from relationships. The more satisfying relationships, the better they feel about themselves. And so quality women usually don’t mind keeping a roster of opposite-sex friends around. It makes them feel wanted and valued.

Thick-skinned men have no problem love bombing a woman with compliments and attention. No matter how little feedback the woman shows on the surface, she enjoys the hell out of it. Then, of course, you can play it cool and make them wonder about you. But the prerequisite to this pulling back strategy is, she has to already like you.

Persistence is a sign of mental strength and maturity

We have the wrong idea about self-respect in relationships. Every dating guru preaches to immediately leave someone who doesn’t treat you properly. When it comes to pursuing women, though, you have to weather through their tests. You have to stay even kilt when they’re confused about what they want themselves. When they make things difficult, you can’t just give up and tell yourself she isn’t worth your time. Because success is right around the corner, had you had the patience to deal with her indecision and high maintenance.

Thin-skinned men have glass hearts and fragile egos. They refuse to lose face and put up with any nonsense from women. Deep down, it’s a reflection of how insecure and emotionally weak they are because their self-worth stems from how a woman views them, and so they leave before it gets damaged. Thick-skinned men will do whatever it takes and say whatever he needs to. He isn’t afraid of being laughed at or saying the wrong thing.

Multiple attempts don’t make you look like a loser. Although you might repel some women, they’ll at least respect you as a real man.

Women appreciate the effort

Persistence also shows how much you desire a woman. Regardless of how they complain about you to their friends, they feel flattered and enjoy this type of attention. They can brag to their friends. When they don’t feel great about themselves, you remind them that there’s one guy who’s intensely in love with her. Who doesn’t want to be badly pursued by someone? It’s the thin-skinned boys that withhold their true agenda while the woman waits for them to close the intimacy gap.

It makes a woman feel feminine

No matter how much the world has changed, biologically, women still prefer to be chased. Thick-skinned men have no restriction or filter. They don’t worry about what women think of them or what’s politically correct. Women don’t feel pressured around them. Instead, they feel like they’re in the presence of a dominant man who does whatever he wants — making them feel safe and feminine.

Thin-skinned men are respectful of women, to a fault. Their unwillingness to cross the line doesn’t appear to be chivalry in a woman’s eyes, instead lacking bravado and masculinity. Around them, women feel more like their good friend than a romantic partner. They get frustrated and ask, “why haven’t you made a move yet?” “Am I not attractive enough?”

There are no boundaries

Unbounded by manners and morals, a thick-skinned man will say anything a woman wants to hear. Even if women find it creepy at times, it’s intoxicating when a man is able to make her blush. The thin-skinned man plays it safe because they don’t want to offend women. In most cases, they fail to escalate attraction.

They get used to having you in their lives

Thick-skinned men won’t hesitate to text, call, or invite. The more you see someone, the more you think about them, and the more you invest in them emotionally, ultimately creating an attachment. Women realize how uneasy it is to withdraw from the thick-skinned guy who always shows up at the door. She’ll actually miss that attention that a thin-skinned guy won’t bombard her with because he is busy worrying about contacting her too much.

Thick-skin always win

Regardless of how annoying a thick-skinned guy can seem, their relentless approach sooner or later gets into the heart of a woman. If not this one, then the next ones. It’s the thin-skinned guys that constantly hold themselves back and using their respect for women as an excuse to drop the ball. Look, you should never go against women’s will. But when it comes to intimacy, they want you to take over their world.

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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.

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